There's Always a Reason....

I.
Am.
Alive.

I.
AM.
FREE.


There's always a reason for being. Sometimes it just takes a little living and encounters with life to help you appreciate your call and why you're placed where you are and come across the people you do.

As always, I say to myself, " Expect each day to be different than yesterday and no matter how tired you are SMILE at the clients".  Running a Nanny/Sitter Service is rewarding but it's also pulls at the cords of my heart with some of the families I meet. I treat Each family with respect and the highest level of professionalism. However, as I get to know each family and their situation( if there is one), I tend to look at them in a different light.


I've been contemplating hiring a part-time assistant. Some days are full days and some days are laid back and relaxing. I see the benefits of meeting great families because they quickly refer someone else. In the last 2 months, KISS has picked up 3 new families, with 2 newborns ( possibly) arriving early next year.
The home of our Future KISS site is under construction, so we are in the waiting period. Space is tight but knowing the kids are safe and the parents are happy, I've become okay with the sacrificing of my home.


2 weeks ago, I received an emergency call on my business line. I didn't answer it because it was Sunday, my last sit had left for the evening and I wanted to relax with my little people before we began to prepare for the School/Work Week. After I did not answer, I soon received a text to my personal phone. Upon reading the text, I realized who the family was and I quickly responded. I called back, I could hear the need and seriousness in the Mom's voice. In less than 20 mins, she was at my doorstep filling out KISS paperwork for her daughter and granddaughter to start the following day.

I digress, for the last 3 weeks, Faithfully every morning I'm on the MonFri-JUMPStart prayer& declaration call for Business Owners. Not knowing my participation was releasing blessings for me, I started sharing my experience with other people and they have joined( continue reading, you'll soon see the importance)...

My new client hugged me and said, "Ms.Neka you just don't understand what this means to me. Thank-You for seeing us this late and we will see you tomorrow." She left, and I continued in my Mommy mode with my little people.

That Monday, I woke up at my regular time excited about the JUMPStart call. The declaration for the day 12/2 was FAVOR... See, although this parent called yesterday she was actually scheduled to start KISS services in January of 2014. But, the week before another parent submitted a letter of discharge because her family will be relocating. I'm losing 1 but GOD saw fit and because HIS Favor covers me, I picked up 2 new clients!!!

Later that evening, when "Mom" ( as I address most clients) came to pick up her girls, we were able to talk. She was then able to openly talk to me about the urgency of their services starting earlier than scheduled. I just listened, what broke my heart most was when she shared how she gained custody of her grand-daughter. Her parents are both in jail serving 2 life sentences with 20 years on top of the life sentences. This little chocolate girl is 5 years old and will see her parents for the rest of her life in jail. I tried to wrap my head around not being here for my children and it hurt to bad. My kids are my life, everything I do I do for them. Although I exist as a Woman outside of Motherhood, they consume so much of my time. I sacrifice my weekends for girlchild and her activities, I wrestle with boychild because the Mister is traveling for work ( and to be available for the twins), I spend Saturdays doing cool activities with them, our Sundays are spent worshiping together. They are a big part of who and what I AM...

I'm easily triggered to cry and once "Mom's" eyes began to water I connected with her and an AHA moment took place. AHA, the Grace & Favor that sits upon my life is there to share with others, especially children. And although somedays are tiresome for me and I think to give it all up ( for about 1/2 of a second), I'm quickly reminded that, "There's Always a Reason". When we take ourselves and our needs out of the equation, we can then clearly see the bigger picture!!

As I finish up this blog, I Embrace all that is for Me & My Family. I embrace our story. It's unique and OURS... and although it may not be playing out how I would like, God has it in the order that's right for us to be a testimony to someone else....

"There's ALWAYS a Reason"

Take Care,
NekaT.

I Spy with my little Eye....

Eyes Speak a Language too.... 

Have you ever looked into a set of eyes and saw a person' soul?
Have you looked and felt their pain?
Their joy?
Have you understood what they were saying before they could speak?

Eyes are beautiful, for each set is unique.
Their color, shape, fullness and sparkle.
They see the world thru their eyes and determine a heartfelt interpretation.

What are your eyes saying too and about You?
This morning as I looked into the mirror, my eyes looked at me and saw
Strength
Love
Peace.

My soul is free because if in nobody else's eyes... I know God sees me!

See and understand, I do NOT come to bring harm, I want to bring and share Love
And to help others experience something so Devine.

Oh MY beautiful eyes, I Thank You for seeing ME when I couldn't see ME!
You saw behind my hurts, looked thru my fears,
And helped me to find my future self and bring her to light.

What's a vision if it's only blurred?
What's a voice if it cannot be heard?

My eyes.....
 You see this Woman who once was a Young girl....
A Young girl who once had a dream
And a dream that is now no longer deterred because for once
I'm seeing ME....

I look with anticipation,
I look with excitement.
As I look to the hills it's become clear...

All eyes are on ME
And I must
finish Strong.....

Signed,
 I see you Girl

I knew it would come....

Let's fight for Marissa Alexander

I knew the words would come, it was just a matter of when.  I'd been sitting on edge like the rest of America, just waiting. 10pm, Saturday night the world heard these words " Not guilty". George Zimmerman had been found Not Guilty.

I sat there and said, "Wow".. I mean, I didn't expect him to get 1st degree murder but I did expect at least manslaughter.  Only a coward would take the life of an unarmed teenager. If you really thought your life were in danger and you were told not to pursue him, then why didn't you just sit your happy tail still until a real Authorative Figure arrived? There's no sense in going over what I feel should've happened because America has spoken. 6 Mothers, who could've been on the other side of the law have agreed that he was not guilty. I cannot even began to fathom the feelings bottled up inside of Sybrina Fulton.

Normally, my daughter and I sit and talk about issues that we face daily. I remember the 1st time my organization, Women Who Network and my business KISS did our first Senior Citizen Holiday give back, she told me, " Mommy, I feel really good giving to the old people".  It made my heart smile because this is what it's all about.

When this verdict was read, Im quite sure she had questions but in my absence her Father did what I could not have done. Took her to a rally. And although I'm quite sure she didn't get on the mic and speak, I'm sure just being there, sparked feelings inside of her that we will surely discuss when she
returns from summer vacation.

There was a march in Dorchester Ma and my baby girl and her family were out there. So many times, we forget that we need to involve the little people. They have voices, they have emotions and they want to react. We have to remember as adults, they feed off the atmosphere we are apart of. If they see violence, they will react violently. But, if they see people coming together in a calm way peacefully, they will want to get involved. I salute my daughter and her big sister for getting out and standing for the youth in their families. The fire has been started and if we feed this fire with positive reactions, we could possibly be raising future policy changers/makers.

While this verdict has caused an uproar in the Black Community, it cannot just stop with Trayvon. We did NOT fail him as a people because his parents were raising him the right way. He was a great student, he was active and attended his local church. And although the media tried to display him as somewhat of a vigilantly youth, who smoked weed and used his middle finger; The system failed him. Thee system failed to protect him and the system failed to properly sentence the man that took his life. It's a good thing to protest in his honor but it's now time to fight for Marissa Alexander. He is no longer with us( which saddens us ALL) but in his honor lets fight for Marissa. The system has failed her but it's not the end.

I want to do something, I want to make my voice heard( aha, hence why I blog and write). Marissa, a Mother and wife who suffered at the hands of the man she honored to love and respect til death due they part. On more than one occasion he beat her, while pregnant. And 9 days after giving birth he
came to attack her again and she stood her ground and protected herself and her child. Unfortunately, 
for WHATever reason, she was dealt a card that even my WoRST enemy( if I had 1) does not 
deserve. A sentence of 20 years... What kind of foolishness?  I mean, she is in Florida and after the   
verdict GZimmerman received, we need to fight and unite to get her case the proper media coverage 
it deserves. GZ walks in freedom and Marissa deserves the same. She deserves to be with her child and she deserves to exercise her right to bare arms( she was licensed) and protect herself.

Here's our chance Black America..... What are we going to do?

Signed,
I Will make a Difference

RePosted Blog.... AYear Later and we Await...

We all have been glued to our television awaiting the verdict in the Trayvon Martin case. It has sparked many conversations and opened wounds within the black community that have not yet healed.. When will it end.. Below is one of my many blogs. This was originally written in March, 2012.... Read this blog and find encouragement as we await a decision... We pray now that God in Heaven allows Justice to be served....



I searched and searched and it's evident I did NOT own a hoodie. With what has been taking place lately, is it a good thing or bad thing? would I be an assumed target?

The message went out and my Pastor ( William Murphy,3rd) requested that the Partners of The dReam Center Atl stand in Solidarity, Support and Unity in memory of Trayvon Martin. For the ones of us who wore our hoodies, it was such a beautiful sight.

As Pastor bought forth God's word, " He's Still Making Away", It's evident that although "Minority" America has and will be forever attacked, there's still a glimmer of hope for us to eventually get off life support. What is life support? We're days away from the plug being pulled but as long as there is still breathe in our bodies, there's still room left to fight. God has not bought us out of slavery to return to slavery. We can no longer go down and be attacked. The world has the issue NOT US as the person.

What's embedded in us will always show itself forth, its just a matter of us taking/making a stand against what's wrong. How many times, have you looked at a person and assumed the worst? They don't look like me so something is obviously wrong. They talk funny, look even funnier and I swear the clothes they wear are the funniest.

It's very unfortunate that this young man, Trayvon Martin( 17 years old) was gunned down and killed and his "KNOWN" killer has yet to be arrested. In this day and age, when violence against black has somewhat become the norm, we do NOT have to take this laying down. If you have the energy, FIGHT.

Today's message "He's Still Making A Way", had two meanings for me.
1) Although I don't always see it, provisions are made on my behalf daily. I fail somedays, He's Still Making A Way
2) Although we're still struggling as a people "the Minorities" He's Still Making A Way

Instead of feeding off the negative that surrounds us daily, we must tap into our Spiritual being and understand that challenges come and go. They either make us or break us. There are stumps that just won't budge but right when we're at the end of our rope, there is a message just waiting to be revealed and made clear.

We have to sow into the ground/land in order to reap the benefits that have been set aside just for us. Because we are surrounded with violence we do not have to be the VIOLENCE. While some may view us as the problem, our individual PRESENCE is the CURE.

If 7 out of 10 people walk, speak and live in Peace;the other 3 will either see the good and soon live by those traits or disconnect themselves.

Fight to be the change, fight to be heard and understood. Our circumstances as a RACE does not determine our outcome as a Person. I will not allow my circumstances to kill me or run me away from what IS for me.

I choose to LIVE, I will not succumb to death. I'm on life support right now but it won't be for long. There is strength and Unity in numbers. If we began to portray ourselves in a positive light, eventually the dark cloud will soon break up and disperse.

My son, my nephews and cousins COULD be Trayvon Martin, BUT because of the seed I'm sowing into the ground, it's going to change the outcome of what could be DEATH. My determination is and WILL keep me on track. The world is expecting violence to attack this act but it won't. Together, we're standing unified and Solidified because enough is enough. W're taking back our lives and FIGHTING. There's a war going on and the ability to win starts with just one person.

It took the death of a young 17 year old boy to bring us back in alignment with God and the Fight. Today, I profess that We Are 1 and together the world will see us and Respect Us~~

Hoping your Sunday is gReat

A Mother's LOVE....

" I miss and love you so much, I miss the family and I want to come home, I'm having fun but I will stay"... When a mother hears or sees these words via text or a phone call, your first instinct ( well mine) is to make your child feel better.

My daughter is visiting with her Dad in Boston( our home town). He and I have slowly developed better co-parenting skills although we are two in different states. When he initially called and told me he wanted her to visit, I was okay. However, when he called back and told me he purchased her ticket and then told me the dates my heart sank. 5 whole weeks I thought? Well damn!!! That's the entire summer. I instantly wanted to find ways to change the dates but after I thought about it, I have her all year round and its only right to let him have his time as well. As the month of June approached, I began to feel sad. My daughter is my little BFF. We share laughs, she helps me to pick out my clothes, she's my Sunday photographer,she motivates me on my journey to be fit& healthy, she walks with me, she helps me to cook, she helps with her little brother and she gives really great hugs... How was I going to live without her for 5 whole weeks? Then reality slapped me, I have her throughout the entire year. And although I share each activity, experience, accomplishment and event with her father via text, phone call and pictures it's not the same. He too deserves to have memories with her and time to bond with her just as I do..

She has now been gone a little over 2 weeks. I'm okay with it but the void is there. I miss my baby's voice, I miss seeing her get dressed( for those who know Li, this is always a challenge. she has her own sense of style and sometimes its a bit out there.. lol) I miss her telling her brother to stop... okay I'm rambling!!!


This morning, her step mother sent me the cutest pictures( the collage you see above). Her step mother has a teenage daughter. When she could be out doing the things a teenager love, she took the time to take out Li's braids and wash it so her father wouldn't have too( Thanks Chey, you ROCK for that move)!! and Li even allowed her to style it and give her ponytails..... WAIT, HOLD UP... She would never allow me to give her ponytails. The love she has for her older sister is amazing. I was reassured that they both love each other equally.

While I will always be her Mother, it's okay for her to be loved by others. She has a Father who loves her just as much as I do and other family members too. This sharing my babygirl will definitely have to grow on me but as she spends more time away from me, it will help both of us grow BUT it will never change how much I LOVE HER.... A Mother's LOVE...... Now hurry up already and come on Li... No,, seriously I MISS You!!

Love always,
Mommy

Summer Breeze, makes me feel......

FREE!!!! There's something about the summer that makes me feel a certain way!!!!

Business wise, KISS has been beyond BUSY, a good busy though. Yes, still full of late nights and early mornings BUT I've learned how to make it work for me. I'm utilizing free time when I have it and I'm learning  that sometimes I just gotta let it roll off my back. I must admit, this am I was a little pee'd off but the MR always knows how to help me see the successes and pay less attention to what I deem as the failures.

For the last month or so, I've been toying with a lot of ideas for KISS. Theres nothing easy about a Nanny/Sitter Service. Clients will do 1 of 3 things:
Trust US with their kids
Trust US in their homes to provide services
Or
Trust ME enough to drop their kids to our KISS location in Sandy Springs. Business is based on the need and over the last 2 years ( will celebrate 2 years in September) the need has surely grown.

My thoughts are always, how can I grow KISS and how can I give back? I've encountered a number of clients who are single moms and because I was raised by a single Mother, I understand the struggle. There were plenty of days Mom worked 2 jobs to provide for us. I totally understand. And sometimes, because I understand so well I get caught up in my feelings.... Don't judge me.... If you  really know me, you'll understand that Women, Teens and Children are my heart.


Okay, okay.... So, I know you've noticed the beautiful KISS bracelet. Would you like to win it? Here's your chance. Purchase a $2.00 single raffle ticket or 5 for $5.00 and it will put you in the drawing for this amazing bracelet... I'm a firm believer of supporting those who have a dReam because someone believes in and supports me.

This bracelet qwas designed by the amazing Breana N. Rainge. She relocated to Atlanta after hurricane Katrina hit Louisiana. She has been here every since. She's great at what she does and if you'd like to check her out, go to Instagram and type in polaroid_geek. Let's help her build a dream while she helps KISS.

If you'd like to purchase raffle tickets you can purchase them from me, other clients and pay thru pay pal. The money raised from the raffles will go towards a sit for a needy family who cannot afford it.

It's always a good feeling to give back and in all things it takes a village to support each other. I thank each of you in advance. Thank you for supporting KISS when I didn't always believe in it but even more, Thanks for helping me to help others!!!!!!

Love,
Cheneka

Simply Stated...

I haven't blogged in what seems forever. I thought with it being Summer Break, I'd have more time because I'm not being pulled every which way.... So much for thinking. My daughter left to go visit her father in Boston for a few weeks. I can't even began to tell you how hard that was. This is the 1st time in 9years, that she has been away from me for such a long period of time. My Mooda Pie is my little BFF, my partner, my fashion consult and more often than not, she's my photographer( I take lots of pictures on Sundays because that's the one day of the week I get to look super extra cute)... I MISS her so. She has texted me and called but its not the same as seeing her big beautiful eyes, her smile and those dimples!!! I miss her dancing off beat and her creativeness. My mind tells me, " Go get her early" but in actuality I know she deserves to spend time with her father and his family. I hate feeling like I have to share her but this is definitely what it has boiled down too. Sharing my Mooda Pie...

Up next, my Son!!! This little dude has surely stepped up his game in the drive mommy crazy arena. He's 2, I get it BUT boy oh boy was I NOT prepared for a son. My mother constantly tells me, "he's a boy, that's what boys do"... If I could say it with no feelings of remorse, I'd yell "SHUT UP NETTA". lol But I'm not that crazy to disrespect my Mom( although thinking it is the equivalent to saying it)..  How ironic, just as I'm writing about her, she calls. I love that woman. She's said to me more times than once," if you feel like we need to ride and get Li just let me know". My Netta girl, my other ride or die partner.

Let's see, Oh yeah I got braids!!!! Me with my big ole water apple head like Gina from Martin, got braids. I must admit they are cute though and I'm all for the cuteness. Lol

Weigh loss!!!!! Whoever knew it was such a challenge. But I'm motivated to keep going. I love the feeling I get when I complete my 2/3 miles. When I push myself to finish in lesser time than my last walk/run! There's a feeling that comes along with accomplishment and I'm riding the waves baby!!!!!

I'm trying to avoid rambling so I'll end it now..... But Simply Stated, life is good. I have a few days that are bad, more that are good, serve a God who Loves me despite of my mishaps and a family that loves each other more than a little bit. I have sister friends who have had my back, who listen and are not judgmental and that makes it all worth the while....

So here you go Nek. You blogged!!!! Yes I did and it feels Great!!

Tata Lovies

Cant win if you don't PLAY~~~

Don't front, you know you're going to play! Shoot, I just did!!! LOL They say you can't win if you don't play so why not?? I mean, why not join in the hoopla and just imagine for a little while??

The thought of having all that money is just mind boggling. Like really, after you've purchased everything you want, what would be left to buy?After you've paid your tithes( yup, dReam Center would definitely have a come up), purchased a new home, new cars, things for your family, what would you do??

My children would NEVER have to want for anything and ALL of them would have trust funds set aside. Life as we know it wouldn't change drastically but it would definitely be different. KISS, my business would still be thee most important thing to me and we would definitely have the funding to take it to the next step. I'd go back to school and probably become a Professional Student...LOL, no seriously!

Aside from taking care of my immediate family; Personally, I'd be on a mission to help every displaced person I know. It's always been a goal of mine to have a Life Center for Youth & Families. A place where kids can have fun and if their parents need assistance with job placement, resume' writing, access to a computer etc, they could find it at "The Spot" ( as I would call it). A place where women can freely talk and build life long friendships and bridges to success. It's one thing to say it but it's another to mean it with everything in your being.  I'm so glad that Georgia opened it's wide arms and welcomed me home.

Who's to say the right or wrong way to use your money?? I just know that "IF" I won, I definitely would not change. I already have a generous heart, so it would be second nature to just continue doing what I do. HOWEVER, if you haven't been eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with me, haven;t been with me on this journey to loose weight and if you haven't been in my corner all the time, then hmmmmmmmm figure it out!!

LOL

*disclaimer, Don't get mad when I win. Go spend your $1 and close your eyes and dream too!!!

Boy do I have something to tell you.....

I'm from Boston and I workout!!! YES, I said it," I workout" and it feels GREAT!!!! I decided to re-claim my life and my healthy comfortable weight/size a few weeks after my 34 birthday. Yes, I'm in my 30's. I have 2 kids and they keep me on my toes. What kind of mother would I be to just sit on the sidelines and not participate with them?

Since starting the "Squat Challenge" I've gained a number of new "sister friends". Though more than 1/2 of them are not in GA, they have become my motivation to keep going!! Not only do I squat, I jump rope, lift weights, I run/walk and occasionally play tennis,  I drink WATER like its going out of style. I also make it a habit to have a healthy smoothie at least twice a week.  This is becoming apart of my life. Although I'm not doing anything big like serious weight training, I feel good with where I've started and I look forward to doing more as time progress.

As most of you know, I'm a Boston Girl who has become a GA Lady. I was born and bred in Boston( minus the 6 or 7 years I lived in Florida). I'm sure you can imagine the heartache I've experienced this week due to the Marathon Explosions. More than 1/2 of my family still reside in good ole Mass. I experienced a few small scares on Monday after the explosions because my uncle could not find his kids( they did make it home safely) and others who I knew would be present BUT thankfully EVERYONE is accounted for and are safe( as is the entire state).

I've said all that to say, I have a challenge for you!!! There were lives lost and many people injured during this tragic event. To honor their lives, I will be walking/running 117 miles in honor of them( 117 is the number of marathons held to date). I would like for 117 people to join us but that's probably not going to happen. But if each of us could devote sometime each day, this will serve as our own way of honoring such a historic event and the ones who were their just to enjoy and celebrate. I know many of you who will read this are NOT Bostonians but in a time where the world is in need of healing, why NOT let the process start with you?

If you're interested in joining Me, the challenge will begin on this Monday 4/22 and will end on May 22nd,2013. It is totally your choice on how you complete the 117 miles. All I ask is that at the end, you email me a pic( c79hobbs@gmail.com), with 117 in the subject box so that I can thank you. My goal is to ultimately send a write up to one of the newspapers back home with ALL of us who participated.

I'm big on Giving Back and this is my way of giving back to the place that
birthedMe
educatedMe
taughtMe
and
lovedMe..... Won't you help me??

Signed,
Peace begins with ME

My Home, MY Heart Always...

My old place, 2nd level 149 Hemenway St
Boston Ma.

I LOVE Boston. No matter where I am in life, I make reference to Boston. I was born and raised in Boston. Minus the 6 years I lived in Fort Walton Bch, Fla,  Boston made me ( but Georgia has grounded me and given ME Life).  

Yesterday's events hit hard. All I could think of were my family members, former teens and friends who could've been at the Marathon. My old apartment(pic on the left) was literally 10mins walking from the area where the Boston Marathon was held. I have so many memories in that area. One nice days, Li & I would go for a stroll in her kiddie car or her overly priced Eddie Bauer Stroller( boy the things I know now). I know that entire area like the back of my hand.. MEMORIES... Cappy's Pizza, Boston House of Pizza, Gucci Store, Neiman Marcus, Gap, Nike Town, Aldo, Thom Brown, Virgin Record Store, Hancock Building, Northeastern, Newbury St, The Pru, Copley Mall, Legal Seafood, Boston Public Library, Boston Public Garden, The sprinklers at Christian Science!!! All these wonderful places right at my finger tips. And someone with no regard to human life, attempted to ruin that on yesterday.

The Marathon was and will always be a place where all Bostonians come together and if even for only 1 day, we're ALL smiling and enjoying the day. Even years where the weather wasn't the best, or it even rained WE stood united and still supported the runners. People came from all over to participate. 

I pray that this tragic event does not change the spirit or resiliency of this wonderful place I call home. As I spoke to my mother, she was in a bit of shock. The young boy who lost his life, was a family member of one of her middle school friends. He had walked out to embrace his father upon completing the race and was killed. His little sister lost a leg and his mother is still in critical condition. Continue to pray for the Reynolds Family.

Boston is a melting pot to many races:

 Italians, Jews,Asians, Irish, Haitians, Jamaicans, Greeks just to name a few call this place home.  We're in a state of shock but not broken. Boston will stand tall and strong, united and get through this. The Marathon will continue to bring people together...

On your Mark, Get Set..... Heal Boston!!! The world is with you, praying for you and watching you...

BUT, In the Meantime.....

Ever just get to the point where you try and hold something in but you just can't?
Yeah, it happens to me quite frequently. Nope, I'm not talking about blurting out secrets either. It's more so practicing expressing how I feel and not being concerned with how others take it.

For such a long time I compressed my feelings in order for another person to feel okay. I've allowed myself to subjected to name calling because sometimes it just wasn't worth the bantering. ( so I thought)

But once I relocated, it was like I had finally gotten hold of my life and in no way would I ever back track and allow myself to block out how I feel in order to appease another person.

In the process of finding my voice I also found or should I say realized other things about me. It's funny, how  the phrase you could learn alot from a dummy so buckle up, has stuck with me. And for reasons as such,
Everyone has a bit learning to do in life. And whether we choose to admit it, we can learn so much from other people that can be applied  to our daily lives.

I know for a fact, I LOVE complimenting others. And I'm not going to lie but when it's reciprocated I love that even more. I know, I know we're not supposed to look for praise but a Thank U does go a long way.

However, today I was reminded that sometimes we have to find the push and faith in ourselves so that if we do NOT receive the support we feel we deserve, we're okay with it.

I always think  of Thomas the steam engine. Thomas loves to help others. And sometimes he tends to over do it.  But by the end of the show he has somehow saved the day and everyone at the station is proud of him.

In life, some of us arrive to the station without support and some of us are supported from day one.

I've said ALL of that to say, Always love yourself enough to accept NO's and be prepared to sometimes walk alone. Every trip does not require a companion and just because you have a companion doesn't mean they will always say or do what you expect them too...

In the meanwhile, keep pushing because with or without; you have the power to be GREAT...

Signed,
I see it NOW

What the %^&!????

HaHa, We got You!!!

Hahahahahaaaaaa!!!! Get your mind out the swear gutter!

 I bet you instantly clicked to see what I had to say. It's a sad truth but negativity seems to run the world. I watch the Atlanta news and it's starting to put a sour taste in my mouth as did the news in Boston did before I relocated( don't worry, I don't have the urge to move again)... It's always something though.. But what about those good moments? Like the one I just experienced?

The Mr and I were having breakfast and our son decided to come and join us( more like come and beg for food, he's approaching 2), he went to his dad and said" Good morning" and hugged his arm. That was the sweetest morning greeting EVER. I watch them interact quite frequently. And it makes my heart smile. None of us are perfect parents but when we try to right what was a wrong for us during our childhood is proof that we do exist and want to do better.

As soon as the Mr left out to began to prepare for work, I knew what that meant. The boy would now want my attention. Out the door went the moment of Peace and Solitude. As I sit here and blog, I instantly thought about what was on my laptop screen as he climbed on me. What if I were looking at something inappropriate, what if I were listening to a song that had explicit lyrics( don't be alarmed, it was just a thought to make this next point)....

We are our children's 1ST teachers. What they see in us will mold them into who they will become..

We want them to speak kind words? Say Hello and engage them in positive talk
We want them to have success? Let them see us work hard
We want them to be honest? Start by always telling them the truth
We want them to stand for something? Show them the world
We want them to have an understanding of life? Teach them to read

What the $%^& will you teach your children? We're teaching ours that, in life nothing is freely given to you but Mommy & Daddy's love BUT if you want something, go out and get it. The world is Big and wide and it's waiting for me to guide you and YOU to find your place and get in where you fit in...

Signed,
I'm raising Productive & Positive HUMANS~~~

I'm Running...Literally

So, for the last I'd say about 2 weeks I've been committed to the Squat Challenge. I'm not going to lie, I wasn't serious  at first and I did it just because. But, once I realized so many women were taking part in it, I became serious!

I have a circle of women who have become like sisters. We're all scattered around the US and some of us will probably NEVER meet. But the encouragement I've received, the motivation and well wishes have pushed me to do more than just squat.
I run( you know faster than jogging but NOT sprinting..LOL)
I bear crawl
I crunch
I walk
I eat healthier
I make smoothies

When, I first moved to ATL, I had lost so much weight. I've never been obesely fat but I've always battled with being on the heavy side. I remember at one point in my life I was wearing 14/16( and soetimes I had to buy an 18). No shade to the ones who wear those sizes well, it just never worked for me. With little effort, before I knew it I was a 10/12 in a matter of months of relocating. And it wasn't that I was starving myself, I was new in the area and didn't really know my way around. Every outing became an adventure of getting lost. I remember 1 night after leaving service at my church, I was LOST. I circled my neighborhood for about 2 hours not realizing, I had passed the street that lead to my house... pitiful, I know~Smh

With life, comes changes... I've done/gone through a number of things during my relocation and some have been good, some life changing and some were mere test! However, each of them left a mark on my body..
This squat challenge has renewed my thinking and has made me more conscious of what I'm putting in my body and how I'm treating it. My body is a temple and what I put in will either come out yielding awesome results or it will stay in and alter my physical being.

I'm running y'all and I'm getting my life BACK. I'm LOVED and appreciated the way I Am but in order for me to be happy in my skin, I have to first be happy with me. Water has become my new best friend and the tennis court in my complex has become my training grounds( the gyms are under construction). My children work out with me as do a few kids in the complex. This little boy "C" challenged me the other day and it felt good. I was running doing slight basketball suicides. In my mind, I was determined to complete 4, he pushed me to do 6 and said, "Keep going Miss, you can do it"...

I don't want to be skinny. I just want to feel better about me and be healthy. I'm excited and check back in a couple of month because, It just got REAL!!! My Pastor's theme is "Developing A Better Me (DaBMe) and I'm well on my way!!!

The Experience

I walk in to be greeted by friendly faces and warm hellos,

I sit and wait to be called by HIM...

"Hello" he says "Are You Ready, if so Follow me"

He leads me to a back room away from the common area and preps me for an experience I won't soon forget. 

You can sit right here he whispers

I sit, a bit squirmish at first and I soon relax.

He asks if I'm comfortable

I respond "Yes"

He asks, if it's to tight, I say, No

And he begans...

His touch is to perfection, 

touching all the right spots, not to hard and not to soft...

Do you need specific attention to any one spot, he asks?

I say, No, you're getting them all.

He asks am I getting wet?

I'm not wet at all, which is okay because if I were I wouldn't know because it feels so good...

I close my eyes because it's becoming a bit intense...

I'm experiencing an almost outer body experience...

He stops and I'm like why,

hold on he says, Let me moisten you again...

Round 2...

He's rubbing 

I'm moving

and in what seems like forever

I'm sure is coming to an end.

He helps me to sit up,

I hear him say, Ok i'm going to dry you off and it's OVER....

Just.

Like.

THAT.

He reaches for my hand and I sit up, wishing I had another 5 minutes with him.

He leads me back to the common area

And everything is still a blur...

Damn, I say

I just experienced the

BEST

Hair

Wash

EVER~~~~

Circle of Life....

BalletMonet.....

"I believe the children are our future, teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they posses inside..." Whitney Houston "Greatest Love of All"

Growing up, my dream was to Cheer. In middle school, I did not make the cheerleading team and I was heart broken. Then came high school. All of my friends made the squad freshman year but I was to chicken to try out. 10th grade, I found the balls and tried out. I made the squad and became an official Lady Tiger( go O'Bryant)!! Lady Tigers we rock hard we rock til the break of dawn...

I digress.....

Now that I'm a Mother, I find it my responsibility to help my children find what they are passionate about and make it into their reality. My daughter has tried out a number of activities and has excelled at them all. Swimming, Soccer, Singing/Dancing at Church and Cheerleading. I make it a priority to introduce her to something each year. Although she has become a lover of soccer and passionate a cheerleader, I constantly reminder her that the world is hers and she does not have to limit herself to these activities only.

I recently read a story about this beautiful young lady Leah. She started dancing at the age of 8. Although I have not physically met her, she is my niece (in my heart). I remember growing up in a single parent home and instead of having a hobby after school, I came home did my homework and kept my brothers safe until our Mother returned from work. We were latchkey kids because we lived in a single parent home. Growing up, I found myself bothered that we weren't able to do as much as other kids did because Mom had to work ( and sometimes she worked 2 jobs). Now that I'm an adult and a Mom myself, I make it a top priority to be available and provide structure and balance to the lives of my 2 little people.

Leah's mom Monique is a Wonderful Mom. I'm sure like many of us, she has made sacrifices. Going without so Leah can have. I've seen how many pairs of ballet shoes that have been purchased over the years. I've watched( through pictures) the dedication and commitment she has given to her daughter's dream. This is what Good Mommies do. Give less to ourselves and more to our offspring. It's not a choice, it's a sacrifice.

I know we all have things going on in our lives but I challenge each of you to go to http://www.gofundme.com/balletmonet read her story and find it in your heart to donate.
In life, there's a circle. What we give comes back around to us. Believe it or not, we may not be direct recipients when the circle takes full form but the benefits could more than likely be reaped by our children. The circle of life reaches us all.
Do your part whether big or small and help my "Niece" Leah, reach her goal and live out her dream.

Signed,
 I give so MINE can HAVE~

You want to borrow WHAT??? Say WHAT???....

Nek, what you doing, I hear on the other end of the line. Is this who I think it is I say to myself, ahhh darn I should not have answered. She only calls when she wants to borrow some shoes or a bag....

A few of my faves BAGS&SHOES

Anyone who knows me, know I love with a capital LOVE shoes and bags. I still have my very 1st coach bag and my mom purchased it about 18years ago( hmmm maybe I should pull it out and carry it just because, Thanx Mom). My 1st passion was sneakers. Up until about 9/10th grade, all I purchased was sneakers and I had all kinds. I even remember having the clear "bubble shoes" as we called them back in the day. I've watched styles disappear and re-appear. I wish I had of kept somethings I had growing up because many of them are back in style( although my size has changed... another post on a different day, LOL).

I own high end designers down to bags I've found at consignment shops. I'll buy a bag just about anywhere as long as I like it and can match it up with something. How funny is this? I'll stand in the mirror with the bag on and imagine me carrying it with one of the many outfits I already have in my closet. I know, EXTRA.. LOL

Now, when buying shoes, the approach is totally different. I think of the bags I own to make sure I have something to carry when I wear the shoes. I know, sounds weird but it works for me!! Clothes, I'm constantly picking something up here and there but shoes and bags, those purchases are followed with strategic planning. It's almost like a job for me given by me. I can't let myself down and whatever I purchase must be eye popping and "ohhh & ahhhhh " worthy. don't front, you have those vain moments too!! LOL

Its funny because my mom will come to my house and always try and leave with something when in actuality we DO NOT wear the same size shoe and she has a closet full of bags( some she has gotten from me and never used, like that Prada I spent an arm and leg on, Hmmmmm I feel an Indian given rising up in me..LOL)

I have been judged because some ppl think I spend to much on bags BUT if bills are paid, home is happy and I won't consider returning it when I'm broke( yes, bum chicks do that) then let me live!! What's the use in never enjoying the fruits of your hard earned dollars. Some take trips, I buy bags... Some go out to dinner, I buy shoes. Some ppl like Payless, I like Just Fab, nine West, Aldo and DSW just to name a few!!! Too each his own.

My Godsister/BFF (back home) Tara and I used to shop more than the 7 days in a week. That was before life and children( for me anyway). My bag purchases are now planned out and saved for. I buy expensive ones 3 times a year now, where as before, if I had it to spend it came home with me..

with Life comes Living and Lessons and today's lesson is, I LOVE sharing and giving things away but PLEASE do NOT fix your lips to form the words,,, " Can I borrow a pair of shoes or a bag" bc 9 times out of 10 I'm going to stare at you with the blank stare and respond NO....

Signed,
Ask Wisely!

Respect..... I'll pass or will I???

This past weekend, my family and I were in Florida to lay my mother's older sister to rest, Auntie Linda. She battled cancer for 3 years and when she felt like she'd had enough, she took her last breath and transitioned from this world. My heart smiled because on the day she transitioned, my brother and I were able to speak to her and tell her that we loved her.

Friday am, we loaded up the truck and made our way to Pensacola, Fla. It was an easy drive and we made it there in about 5 hours. Upon our arrival, the feeling was quite somber. We arrived at my cousin's house( My aunt's daughter) to meet to head to the funeral home for a family viewing. I'm not big on all of this but I had to be there for my cousin and mom( and other aunts, cousins and uncles). The memorial chapel who my family entrusted my Aunt's remains to was Amazing and there was my 1st encounter with RESPECT...

As I viewed my aunt, my heart smiled until I couldn't find a tear to shed. She looked BEAUTIFUL. Just like she was resting. Her hair was laid( like always) and she had on a nice off-white suit. As I walked out of the chapel, I stopped in the office and said " Thank-You to Mrs. Tracey for her hospitality. My head almost fell.... Me: Mrs. Tracey, my aunt looks so beautiful. Thank you for a job well done. Her: Yes ma'am, it was my pleasure.... WHAT Pump your Breaks... Yes ma'am, to me?? I looked because Tracey and I looked the same age( it was further discussed that she is younger than me, well heck I'm only 30 for the 4th time)...

The whole "Yes Ma'am" thingy makes me cringe. Not because I don't like it but I'm a northerner and those same sentiments aren't shared there. I mean, I said "Yes Ma'am to older, way older adults but not ppl within the same age bracket and me.

When we 1st arrived in Atl, we spent Thanksgiving with my daughter's extended family( her dad's side) and her grandmother continuosly corrected Li( then 4) for not saying "Yes Ma'am". I became a bit agitated and out of frustration, told her" Li isn't accustomed to saying that". Fast forward back to last weekend. It's now Saturday and we are gathered for family prayer before the service. My cousin's son DeVincent was standing near me. I said, "I'm your cousin Cheneka( yes, used government) and you are the most handsome little man ever". He flashed this  50grand smile with dimples and said, "Thank-you Ma'am".... Whoa! I grabbed my heart. Baby, I'm your cousin, you don't have to say Ma'am to me... He flashed that smile and responded "Yes ma'am" AGAIN!!!!

... Tishhhhhh( his mom) please tell your son to stop saying "Yes Ma'am", oh no Nek, she said" It's a form of respect, he WILL say it"... My aunt Anne chimed in, "He'll say what she asked", " Yes Ma'am", Tish responded. "Oh yeah baby" said Auntie Anne, we're big on respect down here. We don't play that. You say it to us willingly or be forced by someone else to say it..

Yes ma'am, Yes Sir, no Ma'am, no Sir.... I mean, I did live in the South for a good portion of my life. I was introduced to that form of respect but by 7 years old, we had relocated back to Boston and I mimicked what was in my environment. To respond with a simple Yes or no, but NEVER what or huh... Simple enough huh? I guess not.

So, along with seeing family and friends I haven't seen in what seemed forever, I was reintroduced to RESPECT( smile). Although I don't think I'll enforce those responses with my children, if they say it I'll just smile and accept it...

Signed,
I'll Embrace Yes and No Ma'am~~

Success, Not where you're from BUT where you're AT....

 Have you heard??? Women Who Network hosted their 1st Mixer of 2013 and it was very successful. I must admit, I was a tad bit worried at first. We didn't have the same backing and support as we did the last time. We had support from as far as California ( and other surrounding states too). Our venue was packed and we knew most of the people in the crowd which provided comfort. But we couldn't ride off that success. We'v grown and it was time to stand alone and make it happen.

This go round, the only familiar face was our vendor Tonja, Owner of Selena's Collection. So, we had to wing it ourselves. But the end result was PURE SUCCESS. Not only was it a success but we made new connections for our next event.

If you're in the Atlanta area, check out Kat's Cafe, located on Piedmont Ave. The owner Kat, opened her doors and allowed Women Who Network to do what we do best, Talk, Network, Share &Work the crowd. She was friendly and warm which set the tone for the atmosphere. Her spot is known for the live music, singing, spoken word and the vibe is nothing but refreshing, laid back and drama free( which we LOVE)... It's definitely a hidden jewel here in the heart of Atlanta.

Mixer 2013, provided LIVE Entertainment from the beautiful Lara Belle of Soulful Entertainment. She provided over an hour of live music( along with her guitarist Brandon). She got the crowd to sing and even introduced a few of her other singing buddies( Latriece and Trei but WAIT Trei does more than just sing, hold on). She sang a few of her original pieces and even threw in some Jill Scott because we're definitely taking our FREEDOM off the shelf and carrying it with us EVERYWHERE we go. (Living MY Life like it's GOLDEN)!!!

Giveaways... Who LOVES giveaways? I certainly do. Thank you to some wonderful supporters of WWN, we received Budget Bracelets from Tiff the Budgetnista, giftcards to Express & Macy's courtesy of Tommy from Nationwide Insurance( hey, it was my bday where's my Macy's giftcard..LOL), pencils from KISS( kid inspired sitter services), books signed by Authors Matthew Parker and Earlina Banks, along with other cool stuff in the gift bags.

And lastly, to promote an event; sometimes a commercial is needed. We thank our new buddy Ms. Trei of Treihouse Radio (on your am radio dial), for making that possible. She also provided a live chat session with Lina(  one of our Founders of WWN). Got a business and want to share? Trei is definitely the person you want to connect with.

All in all, Mixer 2013 was a success. What is success without a lil bit of anxiety and fear? No, not fear of failure BUT fear of the unknown. I can HONESTLY from last year up until this point, WWN has definitely been on the move. Family, LIFE, Personal issues, Work etc has not stopped our mission. This is truly just the beginning. Speaking on behalf of Lina and myself, I can say we both have grown and our journeys from where we started( our hometowns) to our current state of residence is no where near over.

So, we THANK You.. We 1st thank you God for giving us the vision of WWN( yup started right in my living room), we THANK our supporters, we THANK our private funders who give when we need it and we thank our immediate Families( here in GA). You all are apart of the vision and process you will be GREAT because we are GREAT!!!!

Want to learn more about Women Who Network?
We're on twitter: @womenbldgnetwrk
We're on Instagram: WomenBldgNetwork
Or Email us: womenbldgnetwrk@gmail.com

Until our Next Event, Live like it's GOLDEN!

Signed,
I'm Still Growing & Learning
...... But I'm making MOVES... cause I'm like Jagger~~~lol

the Rambling Post..... A Mother's Morning...

Like any other day, I woke up( And I live to do it all over again, WOW Thank U Lord for loving me). Took a sip of water( trying to drink more water so I keep a bottle next to my bed but it's a plastic sports bottle and it makes me worry about Cancer), went to the ladies' room, washed my face and brushed my teeth( trying the new listerine tooth paste and it's not bad"thanks mom").

Yelled into Chelia's room, "Wake Up girlie" and marched into the kitchen to prepare her breakfast and packed her lunch. It hit me, time to do a little food shopping chica!!! I swear, there's always something on the list of things to do.

Finished up in the kitchen, peeked in on the girl. She was almost finished getting dressed, Good.. Li, meet me in the bathroom so I can comb your hair. My kid has been obsessed with wearing a bang since coming back from her trip to Boston, I wonder why? We shared our morning laughs, the highs and lows of yesterday and what we'll focus on for today.. And just like that, we're ready to walk up to the bus stop. We say our prayer of protection and make it up the hill to the bus stop.

The world is so peaceful in the am. The bus arrives and Grandma ( an older woman who is at the bus stop with her grandson in the am) and I start our walk back down the hill. It's funny, Grandma and I exchanged a few words not to long ago because she thought I was ignoring her in the AM... LOL

Now, we wait for each other and walk back to our homes. Today though, her words warmed my heart. " You are a beautiful young woman and always remember to look up and Thank God for each new day". Enjoy your morning fresh air because when the day becomes to busy its hard to get out( and as I type my son is standing here, rubbing his nose on my elbow.. WHY).

I know this blog hasn't made alot of sense today BUT it felt good just to blog what was in my head at this moment...

I challenge each of you who just read it, to stop and compose your own Rambling Post... It'll make you smile and do your heart good!!!

Now, to focus on EVERYTHING else..... Ughhhhhhhhh.. There goes the neighborhood

Signed,
I Feel Good

Just Flow

Just Flow

There's a power that's stronger than words
Even stronger than actions.
A Power that runs so deep that it connects you through the soul.

This Power is so Real,
It allows you to feel what has never been felt
And
Understand what has never been taught.

It allows you to give from a place that has been broken
And reap from hands that only God could place in front of you.

It allows you to witness a Love & Bond so true that it brings you to tears,
It allows you to walk among people you wouldn't meet ordinarily,
And it speaks a language of forgiveness.

It's allows you to give unselfishly and in the process you can forgive yourself.

It's gives you the Power and Strength to trust in your Instincts
Because the Power is so Real that a human could not understand.

 


In life there's an Energy called a Flow. It could be your:
Family Flow
Work Flow
Gym Flow
Etc.... But it's a flow. It gives you a good feeling because its working for you so well.

Today, I submit to Flow. In the process I'm going to watch God's hands Flow and do the work I could not.

Signed,
I'm Flowing

Girls AREN'T always made of Candy....

 What a great weekend we had. The sun was out and so were we. We started in South Atl and made our way back to our side, North Atl.

We stopped at a little shopping plaza and ended up in Petco. Anyone who knows me, truly knows my kids love Beta Fish. Who wouldn't? They are cheap, don't last long and are fun to replace. We had betas a few months back, we woke up and all three were dead and YES they were in separate tanks. We intentionally waited to purchase new ones so let's see what happens.

So, the Petco Associate sold us a really great deal. We got a divider tank for betas, with a filter system and everything. So, when these two pass onto Fishy Heaven, we can start a mini goldfish aquarium.

So, here's the kicker. I finally set the tank up on Monday. ( I'm telling you our weekend took us all over Ga). I added the water and few rocks( note to self more rocks and plants) and treated the water. About an hour later I added the fish. The girl is named Britt( in honor of my kids Godmom, oh they love her so) and Rudy( the boy, son's fish).We enjoyed watching them get adjusted to the water. I mean they went from a small confined space to swimming in the Gulf of Mexico( iKid, lol). Time passed and we continued on with our day. I eventually feed them and  we moved along.

As the day turned into nite( how ironic), I happen to look in the tank and low and behold, Britt had somehow managed to be on Rudy's side. I mean, I do wear glasses and maybe thought my eyes were playing tricks on me. Thank GOD for the iPhone because I immediately took it out and looked at the pics. YUP, that lil fresh girl snuck into Rudy's space. I watched them for a while and then switched her back. I got my cup of water and went to bed.

Tuesday AM I proceeded to tell my daughter and she asked, "mommy are you sure"? Excuse me.... I also told the Mr and he responded, "I don't know babe, maybe because it was late you thought that was what you were seeing"... what the geezie, nobody believed me? I mean it was late, is that really what I saw???

I figured, I wouldn't pay those darn fish any attention and secretly hoped someone else would notice it too... Before I could blink, my daughter yells" Mommy, where's Britt"? My mind almost said Boston but then realized she meant the fish. So, were both looking in the tank and this girl is back on Rudy's side. AHA!!! My eyes weren't  playing tricks on me. The Mr even came over too look and I won't repeat the words that came out of his mouth. She's a fiesty lil fish to say the least. Rudy was chasing her like a mad fish. Biting at her tail, head butting her. And with our own eyes, we watched her immediately go back to her side when it became to much for her!!! lol

Moral of this blog, Females we aren't always the sweetest!!! Yeah, we're sweet but we're trouble makers too 2 say the least!! lol

( This blog was written in fun, enjoy for what its worth)

Signed,
My Milkshake!!!! LOL

Treating Me with Common Sense ( Money Wise)

I had this teacher in High School( Mr.Frankie Hall) who was the cheapest, funniest Southern man you would ever want to meet). Mr. Hall was really adamant on reminding us to attend church over the weekend and getting in touch with the "Good Spirit" as he would call it. He was a Peaceful man but we could tell that life's experiences made him the way he was.

I had his class twice during High School, for African American Studies and Economics. I enjoyed AA Studies, but economics opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking about cash.  By my sophmore year, I had held down the same after school job for about 1 year and received a few raises ( Yeah, 125 weekly tax free was good money at that age). I wasn't the best at saving but I was never broke( I lived by the rule of tithing 10percent to my place of worship, still live by it now too).

Mr. Hall always had a way of amping us up in Economics Class about what he was going to teach. We would always hear talking in the halls about "Common Sense" and secretly( The Nerd in ME) anticipated the introduction of the book.
When he FINALLY passed it out, I quickly put my name in it and went through the book. Lessons on how to save money, how to invest and live better were just a few of the many worksheets we would be working on. I was excited.

There was this one lesson that has stuck with me throughout life and I'm now going to pass it on and share with you. As a mother, there are so many times I find myself forgetting my needs, putting aside my wants and focusing directly on the needs of the home and my children. People have the misconception that once you become a business owner and work for yourself that money flows freely. That is definitely a MYTH. You have to mentally and financially set yourself up to lose a little here and there. I'm learning how to budget my income $100 less just in case something arises with my clients.

But here is the challenge, in order to make time for yourself you have to invest in yourself. Another challenge has been paying myself what I feel I'm worth. Yes, another hard one but I'm getting the hang of it.

THE CHALLENGE: Find an empty jar and place it in a secret place that only you will have access too. At the end of each day, you can do 1 of 2 things, dump all of your change from your pockets, wallet etc or add $2.00 (DAILY). You will follow this process for 3 months straight without touching the jar or trying to count what's in there.  By the end of the 1st quarter( 3months) you can either purchase something for yourself, or invest it or save it in your account. The challenge is: that YOU will use this on YOU and nothing ELSE.  Sounds like alot but in actuality it is not. You are rewarding yourself. Job well done!
Thanks for being a dedicated Wife, Mother, diligent Worker, a Peace maker, A listener.. etc. These are all thankless jobs that go without the extra acknowledgement.

Since we are in mid January, you can either start today or wait til Feb 1st. If you are willing to take part in the challenge please, at the end of this blog, leave a comment with your name. I will blog follow-up posts just to check everyone's progress and the hear your stories. We have to build each other up and be apart of a support team for our sisters.

So, here's to an awesome 3months of saving and actually reaping the benefits of "kinda" putting you 1ST!!!Thanks Mr. Hall, years later Common Sense is still apart of my LIFE~



Signed,
A New Handbag in 3months...lol

Kids just don't Understand...( to the tune of Parents just don't Understand)

After my daily bus stop trip( to send my daughter off), I had a quiet moment so I jumped on twitter. I get a kick out of some of the am tweets I read. So, I was twitter"duced" ( like introduced) to @bigkwabenaSharif by my sistergirl. I figured, he's a Northerner like moi and I'm sure to get some laughs. I'm telling y'all since I started following him, the laughs have been non-stop.

This am, he tweeted, "The amount of balling ima do when I'm in my forties is gonna be astonishing. LOL" I hollered. When, I think of my 40's I'm like its quickly approaching.. This dude getting ready to ball out soon. Then, he shared he started having kids when he was young.. That shattered all of my hopes and dreams. When I'm 40, my oldest will be 15 and my youngest 8. Yeah, I won't be balling out anytime soon!! LOL

Shoot, I'll still be having bday parties at Chuckie E. Cheese and places like Catch Air, because there's such a gap between my children. 15, as a girl was crazy. I was busy staying fly, & being popular! The little money I did get was used buying sneakers, getting my hair done and shopping in the Gap Outlet in Downtown Boston.

However, a 7 year old girl and boy experience things differently. When I think of my brothers, those dudes we're climbing trees, still hanging in the park, taking karate classes, playing with Ninja turtle figurines and being cops and robbers. Doesn't sound like its going to be alot of fun in my world. LOL

I'm telling you, our kids don't understand. When you're a "REAL" parent, there's NOTHING you won't do for your little people. There was a time in my life where dropping $300/400 for a handbag was nothing to me. Now, 2 kids later I have to wait til those things go on sale( and sometimes find them on clearance). I used to get my hair done weekly, now if I remember or have a free Friday AM, I'll go in. and let's not talk about tax returns( which he's tweeted about also), because although it's some extra money, Real Parents, end up finding ways to spend it on the kids( after taking care of a few things of importance).

So, while ballin out in my 40's would be nice... I'll politely wait til I'm 50. My youngest will be 18 and if he knows like I know, he'll definitely be at some University on scholarship. He won't be getting my greens anymore( I Kid, no matter how old they are, they will still be my babies)...

Signed,
I'm Ball OUT 1 day too!!!

( Thanks for the Inspiration& Laughs Kwab)

Extreme Clean OUT~~~

" I LOVE shoes"

 I remember a few weeks ago, I was running around cleaning like a mad woman. Yelling at my daughter and son too( like he was listening) " Come on y'all, we cannot go into 2013 with a dirty house, Grandma Netta will kill me( my Mom)". Not only had I worked that day BUT I had to work that night as well with NYE sits ( I run a Nanny/Sitter Service). Up until 10:45pn, I was getting MY house in "order". Quickly cleaned my bathroom( cleaned Li's the day before), changed my sheets and washed the last 2 loads of laundry. Cleaned the kitchen, loaded the dishwasher, vacuumed, wiped everything down and forgot about my closet. Sugar rumps, I HATE tackling that closet. BUT, to my own surprise I sat there, in the middle of the closet and really took the time to sort thru my shoes, clothes and EVERYTHING else.

As I sat there, I looked at each pair of shoes and had a memory or two. My shoes are the other children I'll never have "physically". I'm super anal when it comes to my shoes, they are in individual clear boxes and they are labeled. And the array of shoes I have is sickening. I have shoes some would call ugly, shoes that make me feel like Beyonce', I have custom shoes made JUST for my feet and a few pairs of sneakers that balance it all. My mind said to just close the door to the closet but MY Spirit said, "Ummmm, you can't clean 1/2 the house and leave the part that needs the most work".

Let's fast forward to today.....AM prayer....( dReam Center Corporate pRayer for the next 21 days, you're welcome to join us 6am, (218)339-0803 access code 4209)

Pastor William Murphy...." You can't put new wine in old skins"..Ahhh Haaaa..I couldn't go into the new year, expecting an abundance of "NEW Shoes" and still harboring old shoes that just didn't "fit".....( just a comparison)

 The same energy and passion I have to care for my shoes, I'm using that same energy to channel my life and way of living. I'm working on my heart because that's always the one place that needs to be cleansed. And not that I'm an evil person but I'M HUMAN.... We make mistakes, we think we've forgiven others, we think we're over situations but it can easily be sparked...

Everyday, is a reason to dig a little deeper and purge. Everyday, is a reason to throw out something, EVERYDAY is a reason to drink water because water is life and it's PURE...

I challenge each of you to drink water more and to refrain from eating things that are not healthy for you... Not because its a diet but because you're cleansing yourself for all the new you will intake this year...

That:
new JOB
new CAR
new HOUSE
new BUSINESS...

 It's coming!! So why not start the extreme Clean Out: Today???

Signed,
 A Cleaning Mad Woman