A smile in a Box...

I can't even begin to put into words what and how I've been feeling lately. Somber? Yeah, maybe that's it. I mean, I'm still going on with my day to day living, activities etc but something is missing.  I've never experienced a loss during the holidays. This year I did. My uncle died. Today makes one week that we bid him a final goodnight, sweet dreams. Maybe I'm still trying to process that...

But the beat must still go on... sighhhhh

Yesterday, my little people took flight on a mini vacation with their grandparents. So we were a bit busy. Mom's you know how it is making sure everything they'll need is packed ever so tightly. Pajamas, socks, outfits( if you're like me, I pack clothes as outfits with socks and undies rolled as well). Everyone's suitcase was packed, I was dressed and we could finally head out the door.

As the kids and I walked out to head to the airport, there was a package  on the steps. I thought, I definitely haven't ordered anything what in the heck is it?! I picked it up and instantly my face smiled. A package from a Sistergirl back home. I still had no idea of what was in the box. I still smiled though and super hard, something for me? Maybe?

I got the kids to the airport, chatted for a bit with my parents, niece and nephew( as the kids are traveling with them) and went over a few more dos and donts with my little ones. My father said, " They'll be fine but I get it, you're still their mom".. lol I watched them board and I left the airport.

You know when it's quiet you have time to think. I thought of the holiday season that's approaching, thought about the little boy that my Women's Org adopted, presents for my kids, work, getting a new piercing( I so want an industrial piercing) and what shall I do with all of this free time?

I finally made it home. I binged on Criminal Minds, ate some leftovers, drank water and went to bed. As I turned off the lights I tripped over " the box"... dang it! I'll open it 1st thing in the morning.

And I DID!!!!! What a big smile I now have plastered across my face. Last year for my birthday, I wanted to give out 37 pairs of socks as I turned 37. But life happened and I wasn't able to do it. I had mentioned to a few friends that I wanted to do a Birthday Sock campaign and my dear heart Nellie said that she wanted to send socks. Opening the box this morning, oh did my heart smile!! Socks for days and it hit me, Ma'am; you have tons of socks that you can now add to the care packages this year..

 Nellie attempted to send the box last year but it was in between my move and things weren't forwarded to the new address. But "the Box" surely arrived on time this year and the smile is the biggest ever.  It wasn't something for me per see BUT it was. It was the smile I needed on this day.
I find joy and pleasure in doing things for others. This year, as we prepare to but things in boxes for the different organizations and families we're sponsoring, I'll do so with a huge smile. These boxes are being packed with smiles and I'm sure my sisterfriend smiled as she picked up the socks.

Even with a slightly sad heart, I'm still smiling big.

My lovies, I challenge you to find an organization and drop something off in a box to give. Pack your box with a smile and just think, the person on the receiving end will open " the box" with a smile because someone thought of them. Give outside of your box( your family) and share a smile!

I definitely plan too!!

Signed,
Sad Hearts still Smile!!

Pictures speak Volumes..

I absolutely LOVE pictures.. to some it may seem excessive but I have personal reasons as to why I love them so. When my mom divorced her 1st husband, we left in such a hurry that most of my childhood pics were left behind. Once I became a parent, I promised myself to snap every single moment as I did not want to lose or miss anything.

I've been very fortunate to always be in circles with photographers. BUT: there's nothing like having your own personal dope as hell photographer. My sissy Karm H aka shutterchic_atl is on FIYAH!! I mean hot like hot sauce! She's dope but yet humble. I joke with her all the time that she's the humble sister.. I remember when she told me she was going to start taking pictures. We talked about cameras, equipment how much it would cost etc..
  Being the sissy I am, I instantly jumped on board and told her to go for it!! Go all the way. What started as just a hobby, has turned into something so much more. She's absolutely one of the best I know. She's not an in the box type photographer, I mean this chick shoots everything. Although she said it was a play shoot, I'll never forget her taking time out of her Sunday with her family, to shoot my parents( son, daughter & niece and nephew). It was a very overcast kinda day but when we saw the pictures you could not tell.

From weddings, personal shoots, selling her pics to celebrity churches,  she remains extremely humbled and focused. When I tell you I talk to God about her and her business!! I'm just happy that I get to watch it unfold and have a front seat...

I would be selfish to forget mentioning Rodney( rod_cali)!! If I tell y'all how the three of us really became super connected you'd think we're crazy.. but he's my MeyMey brother for life! Another dope photographer. His pictures speak to my heart and soul. I'm thankful for his photogenic eye. Although they shot differently, together they are one dope force to be reckoned with..

I woke up this morning to a text that bought tears to my eyes! They are BOTH featured on Buzzfed as the top 10 photographers to know in Atl! My sissy and Rodney!! I mean live and in color!!

Listen, book them NOW because by this time next year, you'll be in line with the rest of Atl!! I'm proud to personally know them and I'm proud to be in their corner. Two of the dopest I know and I can personally call them my Sissy and Brother!!

My lovies, stop selling your hobby short. If it's something you love make it yours, nurture it and watch it grow.. we all have it in us..  Let your hobby speak for you!!

Signed,
The Picture Queen

The Little Things...

These last few months, I've had to find reasons to smile because I know for sure I wanted to just say forget it! This is to hard.

I found myself talking to God more and I stopped complaining. I mean I literally STOPPED!  How was God ever going to bless me while I was so caught up in what I didn't have? It was in that moment He reminded me, " sometimes I'm all you need"..  when I tell you the moment I stopped complaining,  small blessings startedconing my way. In my alone moments, quiet moments and moments when all I could do was cry, God simply said, " So are you going to trust me"?

We get caught up in watching others get ahead that it discourages us. This morning God simply reminded me, He put something on the inside of me and it's his word. When all else fails his word will lift us up and carry us.

As I read this morning and prepared for my day, a peaceful calm overtook me. I can't explain the calm but I can say, something big is on the horizon. Not just for me but for all of us who believe. Let's take heart in God's words and promises. Let's take heart in knowing he has us.
I promise, theres always a light at the end of the tunnel. He makes provision when we can't do it naturally.

I promise, with all of the curves, God is making a straight path just because. It's not the struggle that's making us, it's our Faith in God that's building us and shaping our character.

My lovies, I challenge you to hold on. Hold on to the little things because they turn to much when we put it in the Master's hands.

I totally had a different twist on The Little Things but my heart felt and my fingers typed something else. To some, you're always arriving to late but to God your arrival is On time! And that matters more than anything else...

Signed,
Simply Thankful

But HE knows..

We all need great friends. I always thought men and women could never be friends without sleeping together. When I was younger, if you talked to a guy and he had a girlfriend, you were trying to steal him. If you had a friend who was married, your name came up in an argument because you want him.. The lists go on and on..  

Oh have I proven each one wrong. Some of my best friendships are with men. One of my longest standing friendships is with a guy. One of my first friends when I 1st moved to Boston and lived on Columbia Rd. To this day( and he's married) we're thick as thieves. I give him a woman's perspective when he and the Mrs have a disagreement and he gives me the male perspective when I'm receiving mixed signals from guys I met. 

I'm appreciative to all of my male friendships. I've learned that it's okay to have male friends. Just this week, another close male friend and I discussed boundaries. And whether or not we believe we should have them; boundaries are sometimes needed. They keep you from making choices you'll later regret. 

Not only do our husbands, boyfriends and guy friends need us but to some degree we need them too. 

Aside from my brothers, some of my most sound advice and support, comes from my guy friends. 

True friendships are hard to come by. Especially friendships of the opposite sex. We determine the level of respect and appreciation given in these friendships. I must admit, if you think you may be attracted to a guy friend, do not cross those lines and try and build a relationship. Not that I've ever done it but I'm sure if it doesn't work you can't go back to just kicking it! 

Today, I stand firm in being a confidant, good listener, no crap taker in my guy friendships. Sometimes, the pill is hard to serve when you have to speak harsh truths but if the friendship is true, you get thru it, you grow and remain tight!! 

Shout out to my homies who appreciate the kid.. I appreciate and love y'all too!! 

Signed, 

Simply Thankful for my guy homies!! 

Snatched Hunni...

I swear, I have friends who I laugh with, cry with, be petty with( although I'm mostly the petty one and I pull them in) pray with, grow with.. I mean my circle of sisterfriends IS quite amazing.. I know for sure I'm no easy pill so if they've been around longer than 5 years, they're the real MVP lol! 

It's funny, they each play a specific role in whatever season I'm in. Yesterday, my Sissy and I talked about a number of things. Threw out a few why's and we even tried to come up with some solutions. We spoke a few of our heart's desires and then the petty came in.. Lol

Listen, I don't know about y'all but 40 is soon knocking at my door. Although it's hard to believe because I try to keep myself together; it hit me, I need to be Snatched & Prosperous by 40. I told my sissy, "You just gave me a blog".. As I sat and I pondered what does Snatched really mean? Is it having the small waist, make up being on point, hair down my back, nails together?? To me, Snatched is what YOU feel it s for your Life.. I can walk around in a pair of leggings but if I have a little lip gloss on, eye liner on these 2 here eyes and some mascara then Hunni I'm together.. If my undergarments doing their job and holding certain things in then yup I'm snatched. I must admit, body alteration is the way some of us chose to go.. But if you just take a few minutes and walk/ run/ drink water instead of koolaid then you're well on your way.. 

And the PROSPEROUS part!!! Listen, I promise Father you can trust me! I mean I've fooled over my money before but right NOW today, You can trust me!! Yup, I'm going to tithe into my church, I'm going to help the homeless( maybe even open a shelter), I'll invest, sow seeds, remove debt BUT I'm also going to buy a few bags, houses and some shoes.. I mean can't look snatched but wearing shoes from 8 seasons ago! 

I won't go overboard but just enough to match that Snatch!! 

Hey, it's okay to laugh a little but it's even better to declare a few things too!! Ladies I'm declaring SNATCHed and PROSPERITY become my portion.. 

Ang guys, don't get it twisted you too can be Snatched!! 

Just a little blog humor for your Friday!! Enjoy this long weekend and work on being snatched for next week!! 

Signed, 

Simply Snatched Cheneka 

Words Can Heal..

Hey my Lovely followers! I know, it's been a while. I've actually set up a mini blogIG, NekaTSpeaks on Instagram ( go follow if you haven't already)  But it hit me, I have to make time for this spot too. This is where I truly found my voice in the blogging world. 

Here's my truth:: after a lot of hurt, my motto became, " Your words mean nothing, I need action". If a guy said he liked me, whelp I needed him to show it. If a person said they have my back, ok show it.. Whew, thank God I've grown and matured. Although, thinking in this manner is warranted from time to time, sometimes a person's word is their bond and we have to believe it until they show you different.. And when they show you, then you can look for it to show thru their actions. 

I have this friend whom I talk to almost daily. At first it was simple talk, laughing at our kids, talking about relationship woes ( I mainly listened, I'm as single as 1 dollar bill 😂😂😂) and life plans. Then our conversations started to mature. I began to look at this person more than someone who needed an outlet ( because I didn't see it then but I needed an outlet too) but as someone who was growing. We were helping each other grow without physically knowing. 

This person later said to me, " You know your words bless me".. I'm like my words? They responded "YES".. I'm like give me an example..( u know we thrive off of examples lol) they simply said, " I find comfort in your words because they've healed me and given me strength". 

Maybe it's just me but I'm quick to say, " who me" and the response has ALWAYS been, " why not you". 

Today, I challenge you to speak life into someone else. We're all battle with something or another without having to share it with the world. Speak Peace into someone who's battling with inner turmoil. Speak Love into someone who has felt less than all of their life. Speak motivation into someone who wants to give up. 

There is more power in our words than we know. To my followers, I speak an abundance of Happiness, New Beginning,Financial Blessings, fulfillment on your jobs and Peace in your homes. Be someone's balance today. 

Be their safety. 

We have the power in our words.. 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka aka Word Girl.. 

It's NOT always a downpour

"When it rains, it's not always a downpour. It's just enough to water your ground and give you strength"- CTH 

I pick and chose parts of my life I share with you all. Not because I want anyone to think I have it all together but sometimes I keep it in my resevior to strengthen me when I feel weak.. As bad as I want to cry at times, I find more strength and courage in just writing and sharing. My prayer is ( always) Father give me strength, bless me with your favor and anything meant to do me harm, block it.. 

I've grown in this role as single parent ( yay) but this role as a single black woman.... Ughhhhh 

It's not that I crave intimacy, sometimes( like today) I just need a male to walk me thru the issue. Ok, I'm having car issues!! Lol

I'm grateful for a mechanic who comes to me; in his words, " babygirl, I'll keep your service fees low if I come to you because if you come to the shop I'll have to charge full price".. I can dig it. But when he's using mechanical terminology, I'm totally 199 percent lost! As he repaired the diagnosed issue, we soon learned there was another issue. I wanted to cry because sometimes, as a woman that's my first comforting instinct. But the Holy Spirit comforted that uneasy feeling and reminded me, " it could be worse, you have an umbrella to protect you".. I still have 150 other thoughts running thru my head but if nothing else I have to trust that no matter what, it's not a down pour, my life will not end, the day will get better AND everything that's been promised to me will still come to pass. Yes, I'll have to make adjustments for this week but you know what? It won't stop me. 

My Lovies, I encourage you to keep looking up. Continue embracing the positive. Sometimes the things we want/ crave so bad are not within our reach because it's just not our time. When there's something I want but can't have right away, I've learned that, it's not that it wasn't for me, it just wasn't my time. 

And just like that, my mechanic called me back with the correct diagnosis, and he'll meet me at my house to get it squared away!! See, it wasn't a downpour!!

Once again, God looked out for the kid!! 

Signed, 

Simply blessed Cheneka!! 

Conduit of Love

My awesome followers, 

Let me began with a huge I'm sorry.. I feel like I haven't blogged in what seems forever. I've become quite "lazy" ( for lack of a better word) with actually blogging. I do quick posts on Instagram but it's not the same as taking out time to share what's truly on my heart.. Please forgive me, I'll do better!! 

Ok, now that we're all back cool and we sang 2 versions of Yes Jesus loves me... Lol.... Listen y'all!!! Let me share this with you. We never ever know or understand why God places certain people in our paths. Like we truly don't know. 

I've deemed myself the Social Media Cool Girl!! When my follows talk, I respond. When they tweet I tweet and when they hurt I hurt. One of my fave past times is to play Words With Friends. I've been on for a little over a year and I must say I've met some quite amazing souls there. Just recently, I befriended this cool cat in the Carolina's. Although, I do not think our paths will ever cross physically, just knowing that I've inspired someone  in a not so great situation to be better truly makes my heart smile. 

I get it, seriously I do. We all have moments where we don't want to be bothered. Don't tell me my hair look cute, do not tell me I smell good and do not ask for a sip of my beverage ( specifically SanpelleGrino).. But when we look past our moments, let's be mindful of our presence and the energy we're giving others. 

I promise, I've made it my business to become consistent with who I am. At the end of the day, it won't matter how many givebacks my organization host, how many books we publish( clears throat, plug for my book Stategically Being Mom currently available on Amazon), if I do not and did not carry God's Love, then I didn't not fully live out my entire purpose. 

The more people I encounter, the more relationships I build: it becomes quite evident that some are in need of an ear and someone to just listen. I never ever want to be in a position where as I had something and chose to hold on to it. 

The same way the doors opened, is the same way bigger and better will come if we let go of small things that someone else may need.

My challenge to each of you is::: Do not block your blessings.. Blessings come unexpectedly, in many shapes and sizes. And one of my most recent blessings; I'll forever be greatful... I'll forever thank God for second chances. I'll always remain peaceful and hopeful. I'm

A Conduit of LOVE... 

Signed, 

Simply Blessed Cheneka... 

The Wonder of a Woman....

Mother's Day has come and gone... Back to hustle and bustle of motherhood... I must admit, I marveled in how great Mother's Day was this year. It was all of the small things that mattered most this year. As I've grown, I realized it's not always about the gifts. They are just an added bonus to the Thank You's and appreciation received on that day. 

 It's so ironic how everything falls into place though. 

I was told by a sister friend that I have amazing super powers. I mean, to raise my kids and to help nurture other people's kids, there must be a few unknown powers I carry within. And I think I have figured them out. I carry: Love, Peace, Joy and Understanding!!! And the greatest of them all is I Love Jesus and he loves me!! 

His Love makes way for my Peace. Yes, I run around on empty some days but I'm not a ticking time bomb. I have my right mind even when I feel the world is not working in my favor... 

The wonder in a woman.. We're full of amazement, humor, love, energy, gifts and tons of other things that gives us strength to keep on moving.. 

Some days I wake up with the S on my crown and the S on my chest. You wonder how I do it?!! It's the God given ability given to the strongest women. You want strength? Ask him, it's Yours!! 

So when you think you can't do it, You want to give in? Remember, you carry a strength that only God gives to his strongest.. You are indeed, Wonder( of A) Woman!! 

This year, my family and friends finally acknowledged my strength and power and made me WonderWoman!! 

I'm forever grateful.... Motherhood definitely is not for the weak!! #iWin 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka... Aka Wonder Mom 

☔️☔️ Prince....

I've always known who Prince was. I listened to his music, always loved his hair, followed the story when he became the symbol. I even remember when he performed on GMA and they introduced him as the artist formerly known as Prince. I thought to myself, what ever! He's still the same ole Prince. 

I remember being at Essence Festival two years ago and how the Mercedez Dome was purple the entire weekend. He gave an amazing show. I won't say I was a super fan but I enjoyed his music. His talent was amazing.. 

As music lovers are still trying to cope with his death; after viewing Purple Rain LASTNIGHT, I have a renewed appreciation for who he is as the Artist and as a person. 

 

I believe I'm a people person. I like to read them and understand. I believe part of my calling in this life is to help others and to just be loving and understanding. 

As I watched the movie LASTNIGHT, it was in those moments I understood why people spoke so highly of him. Although I'm not 100% sure if it were a true story or not, certain scenes I felt were parts of his life. 

A person can't fully understand someone or something until they've lived and spent the night. Although his character witnessed and lived thru a lot of abuse, it shaped who he was. Many times we live inside shells because we've been hurt, neglected and taken advantage of. 

When we live in abuse, we become a reflection of abuse( to a certain degree). Although I was not to fond of the abuse, I understood it. He mirrored what he saw in his home. His music spoke of his pain and I'm sure it became an outlet

 for him. 

It's ashamed that when we transition from this life, people began to share their innermost remories of us.. I don't have as much as some but watching the movie I felt a closeness to Prince. I understood him. I sang along, Tapped my foot and felt like I was reliving the 80s. .. After listening to Purple Rain LASTNIGHT and truly understanding the words, that's my fave.. Lol 

" I never wanted to be your weekend lover

I only wanted to be some kind of friend
Baby, I could never steal you from another
It's such a shame our friendship had to end"

My Lovies, allow your memories of Prince to forever live. Not just him but anyone you've lost along the way. Memories will forever keep us close to our loved ones. Let's not allow for their death to be the reason we miss them. If they are alive call them, go see them. Let them know you're thinking of them and you love them.. And you might even say, " I would die for YOU"... 

Rest well Prince. Your style, presence and voice was definitely one of a kind.. 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka ~~~~ 

How could you just leave me standing?
Alone in a world that's so cold? 

Maybe I'm just too demanding

Maybe I'm just like my father too bold

Maybe you're just like my mother
She's never satisfied 
Why do we scream at each other
This is what it sounds like
When doves cry 💜

But who are YOU anyway....

Last week, I witnessed an acquaintance suffer with mistaken identity.. The sad thing is, in no way did he resemble the actual culprit. It has bothered me for a number or reasons. 

He's a black man and our men suffer enough and two, he now has to explain to others that it wasn't him. This could cause problems for him in the workplace and in his home life. People are so insensitive at times. 

As I pondered on this blog, my mind took a trip down memory lane and I looked at some of my old blogs. I've always considered myself to be a great writer but that "trip" proved a point to me. I'm not the writer I once was. And to attempt to identify myself with the old Blogger, would do me no justice. 

I've grown, matured, lived a little, witnessed a lot and it has molded me into who I'm becoming. My yesterday's identity has nothing on who I become daily. 

The thing about our identity is, as we become more of who God has created us to be, we lose and shed what other's have perceived us to be. 

Learning and becoming my true self has been an amazing journey. I've found my Strength, my Peace. I no longer worry or care about other's thoughts or what they consider to be who I am. Honestly speaking, you can't tell me who I am because I'm evolving DAILY... Whew! We change daily. 

And while we can never change our genetic makeup, birth DNA; we can changed ourselves physically, emotionally and mentally. 

Today my loves, embrace the True you. Only YOU know who and what matters to you. YOU know your truths and your untruths. You know your plans for the future and you know the road you plan to take( unless God throws in a monkey wrench, He's Good for that lol). Live and embrace you. I mean it's YOUR identity at stake.. Be you, be True!! 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka".... Have I changed so drastically and you've remained the same"... Tamia( Stranger in my House)... 

Make it Quick....

Listen, I love me some Quick Trip... Never a long wait either. Maybe that's why it's Quick Trip.. Lol

I normally swipe my card to get gas but I had cash on me this am so I walked inside. Boy did a few steps change my day. I walked in, as always the cashiers speak. When I arrived to the register, I spoke to the cashier and she responded, " Today is the best day of my life". First thing I thought, it must be her birthday, since I wasn't sure I asked, " is it your bday"? Nope, she says with a smile. You walked in!! I'm like the hell?! Yes, your presence made me smile today she said. 

Wow I thought, here I am hair looking a mess( getting braids this weekend), running around doing errands and I'm graced with such a sweet compliment. 

When I tell you it changed my entire perspective on this day, it did. 

So now I share it with you.. Make someone smile today y'all. It can be a quick smile, kind word or gesture. Just do it!! 

A Quick Trip, can quickly change your day.. Be quick but sincere the world is watching when we least expect it. Be kind and consistent, someone needs you.. 

Signed, Simply Cheneka... 

We Made it....

We walked into school this morning and was greeted at the sign in kiosk with "Happy Birthday"....

We made it!! The highly anticipated 5th birthday has finally arrived. Every year on my son's birthday I'm somewhat filled with sad emotions.. But today( no other day for that matter), I will not dwell on it!! 

Today, I'm grateful that together we made it to 5. Oh son, I love you more than you'll ever understand. Sometimes as parents, we make selfish decisions. At the moment we don't always see it but when we do, we grow from it and we move on. 

Today, baby we're growing!! Know and understand, everything Mommy does is for the betterment of your life and your sister. I know sometimes, you guys just want mommy to yourself but the nature of the business that has sustained our family calls for other little people to be around. The overnights and early mornings, they will all pay off. My long nights, I'm sorry. 

As you continue to grow into a wonderful "grown kid", I will forever thank God for the strength he's given me to raise you. I can't say it enough," But God". Strength when I wanted to cry, Energy when I wanted a nap, Love/ Understanding when I wanted to cuss/ kill, Peace during heartache. 

My prayer each year of your life, is that we continue to grow and love. I pray that everything your little heart desires, needs, want and even lack; I pray that God supplies. He hasn't failed us yet and I know that he won't now. 

As I wrap my mind around you entering kindergarten, tying your shoes and riding a bike without training wheels, I hope it comes easy just as writing your name, counting and reading has. 

Matthew Ashton, you son are a joy to know, love and raise. And you will be a successful MAN. You will contribute to society in ways that will change the course of living. 

You will excel in all of your classes and any sport you decide to play( right now it's football, I pray this year you can and will focus). My little Sonshine, I love you to no end!! 

Happy Birthday Son... 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka~ Your Mom

"I don't regret a thing, for having you, Thanks for my child" ~ Cheryl Pepsi Riley 

My Ears.....

I promise you, I could not stand a lot of noise. Once I became a mother, it became tolerable. It's crazy though because I've always taught, been in classrooms and worked with kids/ youth all of my life. The irony I tell ya.. 

As of late, I've learned to block out unsolicited NOISE. You know, the noise of judgemental people, the noise of discouragement, the noise of rejection, the noise of hurt and pain.. 

I've now incorporated welcoming the good noise!! My children's laughter, supportive words and encouragement, Joy, Peace and pure happiness. 

Today my Lovies, shift thru the noises in your life. Only YOU can decide which noise is good and which noise truly hurt your ears and even your soul. There comes a time in all of our lives where we just don't want to hear the "noise".... Remove it and continue on with your day, month and even year.. You decide... I got my ears wide open to hear the good noise and tightly shut to avoid the extra chatter... 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka~ " Listen to hear and then decide"CTH 

Patience

Well, today is Monday! If you follow my personal IG account ( neka_th), I tested your patience and sent you to my Blog IG!! Well, here goes!! 

Yesterday, after a much needed nap, I was ready to enjoy the rest of our Sunday afternoon. My son goes to an amazing PreSchool. Very community and family oriented. They have a partnership with our local Publix( supermarket) and they deliver baked goods twice a week. Matthew enjoys taking the bread but we rarely eat it. Sighhh 

So, I came up with the grand idea to feed the ducks. He was extremely excited.  Our first attempt was Roswell Recreational Park. He walked the trail, even saw water but no ducks. He played for a little while then we left. He kept saying, "Mommy we have bread in the car but we haven't fed any ducks". I responded, "I promise son, I'm going to find the ducks". 

We then drove to Riverside Park. I knew there would be ducks there. We parked and began the search for ducks. We walked the entire park and along the trail of the Chattahoochee River. We FOUND the ducks but they were on the opposite side of the River. A guy passed us and heard us talking. He told us the path to take to reach the other side. We hit the path. In the process, we stumbled upon a sacred garden. We walked thru the garden and I felt God's presence. We read the names on the different statues and my daughter said, "Mommy I feel like we shouldn't be walking on this ground because it's Holy". 

We were soon saddened. Once we reached the bank we could no longer see the ducks. By this time, the kids were over it and they just wanted to play at the park. I told them it was ok and to enjoy the park. However, I just couldn't shake not finding the ducks. So I began walking AGAIN! I was determined to feed the ducks!! I walked along the wooden path and as I reached the end, I looked down and the ducks were there!! Right there!! Finally! I tired calling my daughter's phone but she didn't answer. In solace, peace and quiet I fed the ducks ALONE!! It was in that moment I heard God's voice. "It's ok to go after ME alone", "it's okay to have patience", "I got you and you're going to have everything I promised you"... Trust ME!! 

Wow, God hasn't forgotten me!! 

As of late, everywhere I look I see God. I see/ hear him clearer than I ever have in all of my 37 years of life. I'm understanding what it is to trust him and believe him. 

My Lovies, I challenge you to continue having patience. Continue to seek what you know to be true and watch God make a way.. Patience is key!! 

As I returned to my children, I showed them the pics. Boy was son upset. He wanted to run back to the river and see them but they were already gone!! Don't miss your opportunity by being to fast. The best things in life take time.. And as always, I will patiently WAIT!! 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka... ~ they that wait, shall inherit the desires of their heart~ CTH 

Divine Connections~

...~When you stop basing your connections on who should be here and appreciate who is here, there you'll find your Strength~ CTH

I've been on my journey for quite sometime now. I've come to the realization, God will lessen the load if I tap into what it is HE would have me to do. I've tried to alter my life and just when I thought it was working, God reminded me what I've prayed( and still pray) what He's promised, what He's shown me and what he'll do once I let HIM be God.. The funny thing is, it's not that hard to let him lead, to bad it's taken me this long to realize it. 

For the last 2 weeks, God has been talking to me the same way I'm typing this blog. I'm no longer trying to talk my way out of it, I'm listening through it. And in the process, amazing people are guiding me along the way. 

I've always believed that family will never let you down, they'll be there indefinitely. I've had to learn a lesson or 2 about that. And in the process, I've made some divine connections, that I'll carry with me forever. I have only 1 biological mother( Mama I love you) but as of late, great women who are old enough to MA have reassured me that they support me and have the interest of me AND my children at heart. 

Friends also come a dime a dozen but oh when they turn family and they pray for you, cover you, cry with you, get you together and still love you?! That's nothing but divine. 

And JESUS!!! Whew!! If we take our eyes of religion and focus on him, He's everywhere and visible in all things!! Today I'm choosing to allow these divine connections to Bless my Life, I'm choosing to let God be God and I'm choosing to keep sifting through until my treasure is visible.. Yes, I am the treasure but there's a hidden treasure growing inside of me and you too. 

My Lovies, I challenge you to stand still and see the Glory!! It's there. Allow God's grace to carry you, trust  what he's shown you IS coming to past... This Time!! 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka ~I'm no Saint but a Sinner who's alive because of Mercy & Grace!! 

It's going to work, This Time~

~Sometimes you have to face the music and play by yourself~ JHud"Empire".... 

This morning as I sat to prepare myself to read from my Bishop's book, I didn't know what prayer to read. So I settled on page 37 because I'm 37. It's simply read "Mastermind"... God is the Master and I have the Mind.. #Catchit

Anyone who truly knows me knows that, everything has to make sense. You can't tell me something without backing it.. I live for clarity and understanding. A few weeks ago, I was visiting my parents' church in Huntsville, Ala and their Pastor spoke into my life. I sat there and held my son and dissected every single word he said. Some of it registered instantly while I sat there and some of it, I didn't see the  relevance until NOW. 

In close, his final words to me were, " Its going to work this TIME"... 

Earlier this evening as I reached my step goal and walked the park, I enhaled and exhaled BIG.. Everything I've been praying for all made sense and all I could hear was, "It's going to work this time". 

I've been uncertain about my next few moves( there are things I want to accomplish by 40) and today, I continued to hear, "It's going to work this time".. 

I instantly picked up my pen and started to write. I tend to write my best when I'm full and for once, I'm full. 

I'm full of life, I'm full of possibilities. And I believe everything is working. The good is becoming better and I'm just going to roll with it. The thing about life is sometimes, we have to see beyond the surface. We have to remember the prayers we've prayed, remember God's answer and understand that God cannot and will not lie. He can't, he's God!! 

Tonight my Lovies, believe in your dReams again. Believe that nothing is impossible. Find the strength and courage to believe in you.. The entire world can be against you BUT if God is before you, everything is possible!!! 

Because... 

It's going to work, This Time!!! #ForTheWin 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

New Beginnings..

There's something about midnight.. As I did my rounds in the dorm tonight( and met my step goal, 8542), I was intentional about looking at each piece of art displayed on the girl's hall. 

A few pieces truly caught my eye. But the one posted above was the absolute best. 

I live for new days, clean slates and new opportunities. Each chance I get to make things right, do them over or try another solution is absolutely amazing to me. 

At one point, I had myself fooled thinking I was always right. As I grew, encountered more people and searched my own soul, I soon found out mistakes are just God's way of allowing us to try again. 

My Lovies, I challenge you to Try your best every single day. And when you just can't seem to get it right, pray and hold fast in knowing ( if the Lord's will), you'll get a chance at a clean slate, tomorrow!  

I dare you to start something over, with a clean slate. It's going to feel so good. I'm thankful for the many clean slates I've been given. I live to grow, change, be better and Love harder. Accept what you're allowed to change and what you can't, be ok with knowing you've given it your all! Rest well my Lovies..

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

The Promise STILL stands..

Today my Lovies, remember whatever you've   been promised will come to pass.. 

Do you believe that the right music can change your mood and even your outlook on certain situations? This am as I drove my son to school "Better" by Hezekiah Walker played. While I drove my daughter to her doctor's appointment, it played again. After I dropped her to school, ole school Winans brothers and Anita Baker blessed me with, "Ain't no Need to Worry".. 

Just listening to those songs, my entire life was encouraged. 

The funny thing about Promises, they may not happen right when we want them or expect them. They will happen in perfect timing. As I reflected on some of the Promises promised to me, my heart smiled and I was reminded just as Rome wasn't built in a day, neither were promises made to happen in a day. 

Gosh, my soul is encouraged today. My pity has turned into a praise because my promises are enroute! 

I challenge you to reflect on your promises and remember the ground in which it was built on. It may seem a little shaky now but as you( we) become strengthened as will the ground!! I'm excited.. The Promises are on their way. Let's get ready!! 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka

The Strength of a Woman

I'm tired. I mean tired but when you're a Single Mom, business Owner, work outside the home and still have to find time to live just a little; you find that there's not enough time in a day. 

Today was a day used for lots of thinking, some tears and time with God. I'm learning to not only Pray but to just talk to Him to because he's always listening. 

My truth is::: I carry a lot stress. While I've learned to cover it up, sometimes I just have to get it off my chest. My biggest stress as a single mother is equally giving my time to my daughter and my son. 

Another issue I'm carrying well and hiding is this whole single life. It. Makes. Me. Sick.. 

It's easy for people in a relationship to say it's not all that it's cracked up to be but to an outsider it's everything. I believe in my heart that there are still a few things I must learn in this season and though it's hard, I'm trusting the process. 

Parenting::: oh it's hard. I love my babies to no end but sometimes, after I've been their ear all day, I need an ear too. I spent a good 2 years beating myself up because I have 2 children by 2 different men( it's a cycle that I pray will not repeat with my daughter and son. The buck stopped with me. If I have anymore children, HE will be my husband). I cried for a good year and then it registered, God did not put me in this situation to fail, I've had to learn it, believe it and take  the lesson and share it. 

As I walked( met my step goal tonight, 8500 steps), God reminded be, " Be still

And wait on me". I yelled a little, cried a lot and by the end of my 2 miles, I was at peace. 

I have various playlists that I listen to while walking. Tonight's playlist was everything my heart needed. "They that wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength"... "Go ahead and spread your wings"... Because, "You're Everything to me, Everything...."

My Lovies, tonight as we prepare to rest: Believe with everything in you that God has you. He hasn't left & he won't.  Just when you feel that you can't make it, he's already working it out. Rest well in knowing, he's he's protecting us. 

It's okay to cry, just know that when you're done, wipe your tears put your big girl panties on and keep it moving. It won't be this way forever. I hope my truths inspire you to accept your truths... 

Signed, 

Cheneka's Simple Truths 

God is Good, RIGHT?!!!

Growing up, I've always known God to be good. Old saints would say, " he kept my mind, kept me alive etc....". I didn't understand the trueness in that until I became an adult and developed my own relationship with God. 

I truly understand who and what God is TO Me... I'm sane, I'm alive, I'm safe, my kids are safe, we have a home, we have food, our basics are provided. While with the natural eye it may look like I'm making it happen but in all honesty, "God is Good" and he truly looks out for me. 

But as of lately, I hear God is good all the time. Pastors say it, R&B artists say it,  Rappers say it, politicians say it, drug dealers say, kids say it! Everyone

 says it!! Has it become a cliche' or has everyone truly caught the belief that he's absolutely GOOD? 

I know we all experience different moments with God and we all live different lifestyles but it's a good feeling to hear "God is good"... 

My Loves, I challenge you to truly allow, "God is Good" to be more than a cliche'. I dare you to truly sit and reflect on all that he does and is to you. He's good even when the odds are stacked against you. Trust me I know he's already working it out. He's good when your pockets are full of money, he's even good when your pockets are full of lint. You know why? He's already working it out. 

Today, allow God to be God and in the process watch he'll be good to you!! 

Signed, 

Cheneka simply trusts God!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

The Southern Belle 🍑

It's Spring break 2016!!!! I've enjoyed this time with my family so much. Being with my mother for an extended period of time made me realize how much I miss having her closer( yes Alabama is about 3 hours but I'm used to us being a little closer, let's try 1.5hours lol). 

When I go to visit my parents, I try to make the stay quick as possible because I've programmed my mind to think Huntsville is boring. Maybe it's because I have a million and one things on my mind pertaining to my business, the drive back home etc... But this time I had no excuses, it was spring break, family was here from up North and I was scheduled to be off until Wednesday. 

I can honestly say, my relocation to the south( November will be 7 years), has been one of the best decisions ever. The first 2 years were hard as I became adjusted but now it feels like this is where I'm supposed to be. Last week I realized, the North is no longer for me. Life in the South is calm, peaceful, less stressful and carefree. 

I dated a true Sourtherner a while back and I never ever understood why he was so laid back. Now I truly get it. The lifestyle is different. While turnUp still has a place in me, it's now on reserve for when it's truly needed. (It reared its head slightly Monday morning but a little prayer a lots of wooooosahs made it better). 

Spring break 2016, helped me to clear my mind just a little, enjoy time with family and reflect on all that was, is and soon to come. 

And although the hustle commenced as soon as we returned to Georgia with a trip to 6 Flags and a staff meeting lastnight; the peace and serenity that Huntsville provided will always make me smile. Not to mention, we stopped over in Tennessee for a while and I also felt in my element there. Beautiful sights, beautiful people, nice weather. 

I've truly embraced my Southern Belle lifestyle and it feels so good. I no longer have run from this place to that place to appease people. I can stay in the comfort of my four little walls, go for mile long walks, go to the park, take long scenic rides and be at Peace. 

My Lovies, life is definitely what we make it. Who we spend our time with is a reflection of our truest being. Today, I chose to always be surrounded by truth, love, honesty and the ones who truly bring me peace. My son always reminds me that we're rich. He'll soon be 5 so I always "ASS"umed he meant financially until he said, "Mommy we're rich with family and Love".. Out of the mouths of babes I tell ya. 

I challenge you, to embrace Peace and Love. This Southern Belle finally gets it and I'm in my happy place.. 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka the 🍑

Lifestyle Maintenance

Late last week, my dash read that I needed to change my oil( technology is amazing in new vehicles). This morning I had downtime so I went to have it done. 

While sitting in the lobby, there were a few others having work performed on their vehicles. This one woman stood out in particular. She was on the phone talking. I continuously heard her saying, " but if you made me aware of your issue, we would not be disagreeing right now". For some reason that stuck with me. 

How many times do we have disagreements or misunderstandings all because we did not provide clarity? Many people laugh/ or do not understand when I ask for clarity. It's not to be a jerk, it's because I need clarity! I'm effective when I understand and if I don't, I will continue with questions. Lol

I'll never forget, it was my 1st semester of college. I was sitting in my Child Development class. We were assessing the way children learn. I'll admit, sometimes I'll indulge in a great debate, I'll also admit, I'll probe just to see how strong you are( I know, petty). Well, on this particular day, I truly didn't understand a point my professor made so I kept asking questions. Right in the midst of my question she says, " Cheneka all you do is ask questions, it's not that many questions in the world". I must admit, the level of disdain I soon carried for this woman was unbelievable. However, when my final grade for that class was an A and she later expressed she felt I'd be a phenomenal teacher, I knew I'd done something right. Where ever you are Professor Ravitha Amarethinsan(spelling is horrible but in my head I'm saying it right), thank you! 

In life, many areas of our lives will require constant maintenance. A sisterfriend and I were talking about relationships last week and the grass appearing to be greener somewhere else. We have to take care of what's been given to us, or even the hands we've been dealt because we either chose it, or it's our lot in this life. 

Somethings will require more work and if we feel it's worth it, we're going to fight for it. 

My Lovies, I challenge you to work on, or even fix any relationship/ project that you've walked away from. In order for every part to fall in sync, it all has to mesh and work together. We can't expect our cars to run without gas, we can't expect relationships to work without communication. Today, I'm going to be better by doing better. You do the same, you hear?!! 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

I'm Trust Worthy....

Lessons in honesty... It's Easter weekend, YAY!! Growing up, it was huge to get a new Easter outfit, hat and matching gloves( not the clearest pic but it's me) 

Once I became of age where my voice mattered and I could style myself my way, I became a bit more laid back. My church here in GA is quite amazing because there's no real emphasis put on what you wear. 

In keeping with tradition, I do purchase my little people outfits but they are so laid back because our life is laid back. 

Today as we searched high and low for the perfect converse for my daughter, we couldn't find them. We found a few that I liked and she didn't, we found a few she liked but didn't fit right. The night was drawing near and my body was finally shutting down( I got off work at 6:30 this am), I told Li, "hey, I'm getting tired so if we don't find a pair now, I'm sorry but you'll have to figure it out".. She soon found the perfect pair( but we had to change her entire outfit which was ok). 

We stood in line to pair for her shoes and son's shoes. I didn't pay attention, I just swiped my card and put their shoes in my reusable bag and left the store. As we left out there was beeping but I paid it no mind because others walked out with us. 

As we proceeded back to our vehicle, my gut told me to check the shoes. I'm so glad I did because there was a beeper on them. I pulled out the receipt and to my dismay, the associate did NOT charge me for them but gave me both pair and said I was all set. 

My daughter's eyes became glossy ( and not that I contemplated to keep going) and I too was a bit nervous. We walked back into the store and another associate saw us and said,"come here ma'am I'll remove the beeper".. I said, " wait, I'm back to pay. The other associate didn't charge me". He gave me a look of pure amazement and then offered an employee discount for my honesty. 

My Lovies, we should always practice what we teach our children. I also look for teachable lessons with my little people. Sometimes, it's better for them to see us in action vs us always just telling them. As I celebrate Resurrection Weekend, I'm reminded how much my savior loves me. I'm ever thankful for his life and sacrifice. Because of him an honest life is easy( still have its ups and downs tho) to live... Because thieves hung with him, I do not have to steal... I'm thankful that in every situation, my integrity speaks for itself!

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

And I Still win....

This has been a trying week to say the least... I've wanted to scream, cry, cuss, fight.. It's funny how situations can take us out of our element of Peace and Tranquility. 

Last Sunday, my Spiritual Father said in his message, " this will be the week that the devil will try us", but just hold on. 

I can't express enough that I have an amazing circle but this week, I had to literally shut up, encourage myself, make boss decisions and keep looking to the sky. This week, my level of Faith was tested, my Parience was tested( which by the way, someone said to me: you seem to be a person who has it together but I sense you need to work on your level of patience just a little more, keep working your good is coming".. Mind you, I. Did. Not. Know. Him... )

This week, I questioned my own worthiness, my level of accomplishments and my life in general.. 

But oh the Joy that came when I received the quote pictured above. I'm never ever counted out and I have to stop beating myself us. 

Life will definitely throw lemons but when you learn to catch them, squeeze them and produce amazing lemonade; its in that moment you have conquered and won. 

Today my Lovies, stop questioning your existence and your life. You're here for a reason. You're not moving at the pace of others because it's not your lane. Be confident in who you are and watch how you'll soon move right along in this life. 

Be your own cheerleader, sometimes the best push is the one you give yourself.. #YourGotThis

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

I Bring Peace....

Happy Saturday!! Hey my Lovies, it's been a while since I've blogged. I've been living and not in a bad way. Growing, closing doors and walking through new ones. 

My Friday and Saturday nights are now spent with a new group of kids. I must admit, at first I did not want to get to know these kids. In my heart, they did not compare to my Boston babies. My Boston babies taught me the importance of being a voice, speaking up in the gang ridden communities, fighting for equality, speaking out against minimum wage. 

This new group, they come from money. I mean what could possible go wrong in their families? They have financial freedom? All of that changed lastnight as one of the young men truly shared what was on his heart. 

Have you ever just sat and listened to the youth? Do you take moments to actively listen to them without being judgemental? Did you know they go through it? They get discouraged and they feel that they're talked at and not talked too? 

As my student talked, my heart went out to him. As he talked about his family, I thought of my own families. As he talked about what he feels could work at the school, I thought about how as adults we miss the mark because we think we know it all. 

As it neared the time for him to go to his room, I asked what was his favorite candy. As I spent time with my daughter today, by choice I grabbed a bag of skittles for him. Li asked, "Mommy are those for you"? I responded, "No, for one of the youth at my school".. 

My intent is not to cover up what he feel, not to find answers for his numerous questions BUT to be a trustworthy adult in his life. My intent is to build a bond, be a voice and be balance. 

My Lovies, I challenge you to listen with your ears and stop listening to respond. We get caught up in being adults that we forget we made mistakes and at one point we wanted to be heard and valued. 

Tonight when I walk on campus, I come with listening ears and skittles... 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

I'm Every Woman...

I've struggled to put this particular blog into words. I went as far as to reach out to one of my writer sistergirls to get her thoughts. I was thinking to do a "Spotlight" then I figured maybe a "Feature". Then it hit me, this is just as much my story as hers because she's my Aunt. One of my mother's closest sisters. 

Meet my Aunt Tric'e, Author of No Longer will I hide the Stranger in my Bed. In this book, she holds back nothing and she's shares intimate parts of her life. 

I remember her wedding like it was yesterday. She married in this huge church and she looked like a Princess. Who knew that night she'd suffer at the hands of her husband. I mainly remember her wedding because I wanted to marry her then husband with a huge wedding in Disney ( I was all of 5 or 6 years old). Growing up, even as a child, their marriages seemed so glamorous. He was an organist and she was a psalmist. They traveled the entire East Coast singing together. 

As years progressed, it all still seemed peachy until she announced to the family what was really happening behind closed doors and filed for divorce( you must purchase her book to get the full 

scoop). I've always believed that in some cases children make it better but in her case, she was barren and that itself caused her to suffer thoughts of never being enough.. 

As I look back on my Aunt's life, I commend her for being as strong as she was. She smiled and lived off $10 and never skipped a beat. She raised her children and never ever lost her Faith. 

So many things go undiscussed because we do not want to be judged. The real test is when you can share your story and help others. Currently, she's preparing her second memoir and celebrating her book being released on Kindle for electronic purchase. 

Stay tuned and keep your eyes open for Patricia Hobbs- Williams. 

My Lovies, abuse of any kind is abuse. While it's mainly women who suffer, I've learned that men are silent sufferers as well. I urge you to never allow yourself to be anyone's punching bag with their words, physical punches or unsolicited sexual abuse. We ARE each other's voices, stories and sisters. We are Everyone! Thank You Aunti, for becoming a voice against abuse. 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka, the niece of a Survivor 

Happy Birth Week Dr. Seuss

"Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive that is truer than YOU". ~ Dr. Seuss 

To truly know me is to know, I absolutely positively love everything about Motherhood.. Some days it's hard but for the most part, it's rewarding! 

This week is Dr. Seuss week at my son's school. My children have been super blessed to attend really great preSchools. Their teachers have played significant roles in their early development and I'll forever be grateful. 

Lastnight, along with my daughter( for moral support) and my niece, we were able to pull of my son's Cat in the Hat attire. I'm definitely not artistic but I can delegate and bring ideas to life lol... I colored my life away LASTNIGHT and it was super fun. My day is super busy so anytime I'm able to spend with my children makes my heart happy. 

My son was super stoked and ready to get dressed this am( one would think we would've made it out the house on time but we were late), we even did a live broadcast on my Periscope( I'm really trying to get better, bare with me guys)!

We arrived at his school and what should've been a simple volunteer morning with his class, turned into me reading books to the other pre school classes. To have the flexibility some mornings, is just what the doctor ordered. Most moms and even dads( hip hip hooray to the single dads who read and subscribe) are super busy and some days there are not enough hours.. 

I'm grateful to his amazing teachers, Mrs. Anne and Mrs. Pavanah who go above and beyond to help my son achieve greatness. 

And here's to Dr. Seuss!! I learned the importance of reading at a young age because his books were fun, colorful and easy to comprehend. I strongly urge all of my readers to add a few Dr. Seuss books to your home libraries. You'll thank me later.. 

My Lovies, I challenge you to take a moment or 2 and read a Dr. Seuss book this week. The joys of childhood are ever present, it's up to us to always share them with our little people. 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka