Get Yo' Life...

  It's funny how we can take a funny phrase and make it into something with meaning.


 My Mother is a T.V Junkie. You want to know what's going on, ask her! And it's not a bad thing. My mom has earned her right do Nothing. She volunteers with the food bank at her local church and she gives of her time to the less fortunate.


 This weekend was a Get Yo' Life kind of weekend( yup, the TV junkie explained to me that it's a phrase used by Ta'Mar Braxton). What does it mean one might ask... Hmmmmmmm


I digress....
When people have to much to say about you and what you're doing, somewhere between mine and yours, they LOST theirs!! Don't try and help them get theirs either. Step away and mind yours( a hard lesson I've learned but by George I think I got it). When we feed into them minding our life, we give a slight indication that we're feeding into their mess.


These are just a few of the many indicators that someone needs to Get they Life...


Get Yo'Life when you have to much time on your hands to worry about others...
Get Yo'Life when you're miserable and make problems for everyone else..
Get Yo'Life when you're judgemental
Get Yo'Life when you're a trouble maker
Get Yo'Life when you're gossiping
Get yo'Life when you're backbiting
Get Yo'Life when you're doing too much
Get Yo'Life when you've lost your will to live Your OWN Life.


Getting your life it sounds funny but it's serious.  This weekend, my life was tested because I have a low tolerance for others who cause trouble. It's one thing to feel a certain way about me but to judge me and talk about me and make snide remarks when you don't know the Real ME~ I'm going to need for you to Get Yo' Life & leave mine alone..


 It's so easy to loose your life when you're so engulfed in someone else's. Never be quick to judge because if you're not perfect or Jesus Christ himself walking on water, you're liable to make mistakes and fall along the way or even drown..


Living a blemish free life is hard. We all make mistakes we all fail but your growth and maturity is tested when you can walk away and just leave it alone.


Today,( well Everyday) I realize the importance of being in charge of my own destiny. With the help of God and people in my corner who really love me, I'm able to keep up with me. I can't keep up with someone else because, for every minute I waste is a minute I can't get back. 


As hard as it may be for some, Get Yo' Life... No matter the cost, measure or extremes you must take to keep it, you DO it! I bet you'll feel better!!


 ~Cause, ohhhhhhhhhh Hunny, I got mine~

Not walking away, just going forward...

" Into each life, some rain must fall....."
 I swear, people get growing up all twisted. Sometimes, we have to leave the things of yesterday where they are so that we can move forward into a better 2day. If you're living in mess you will continue to produce mess.. But once you find the courage and strength to step out of your comfort zone and pursue the life that was paved for you, you tend to realize a couple of things
1) The ones who cared
2) The ones who wanted you to fail
3) Your strength 4) your Courage


 Moving into a new direction isn't easy. You'll get the, "Oh, she/he think they better, Who do you think you are, You'll fail and the one I heard more times than one" You'll be back"... SIKE.. Not going back.

Once you've made up in your mind that, I have to do this for me and make it work, by any means necessary you'll find the strength to thrive. When it's your time, there will be nothing or no 1 that can stop you. It may feel like the world is against you, but it's not. You're on a path that was ordained and paved for you when you were conceived. When you crossover into the life you were supposed to live, you'll find that you had to get out of the mess in order to process the BEST.

The doors of yesterday will be sealed tight and the doors of your fresher tomorrow will be wide open, ready to embrace you. We have to let go of those attachments that held us back. It's hard to see what's not good for you as long as you continue to wallow in it. When you put your best foot forward and remove yourself, you'll find that the blessings we're already there you just had to shake it off. So, put on your walking shoes..

Don't wait until it hits the fan for you to walk away and into better.. I challenge each and every person that may read this today to go forward.. Find your most comfortable shoe, and walk in OUT... Walk out of whatever is holding you back and posses the life, dreams and hopes that already are yours, sealed with YOUR name on it!! Make it GREAT~~

It's just the liTTle things...

" If people we're more apt to saying thank-you and not just waiting for a handout, like its owed to them; we'd be more giving and concerned"..

Growing up, Thank-yous were always said in my house. Just for the simple things. I remember when I got a full bed for the 1st time. I was a sophmore in high school and my mom surprised my brothers and I with new beds. You couldn't tell me nothing!! and what was the first thing I said? Yup, "Thank-you".

Life has taught me to be very appreciative. I'm teaching my children those same values. Although we never send them right away, I have my daughter to make personalized thank you cards for her birthday gifts and I'm going to teach my son to do the same.

It's 2 words that carry alot of weight, Thank-you. A thank you makes the difference in people helping you vs people passing you by. Sometimes, a simple thank-you will make you more willing to be of a help to others too.

I worked for the City of Boston when I lived back home. Our programs provided free services and support to under priviledged youth through various activities. I knew my kids appreciated the programs because to this day I'm still referred to as Ma by alot of them. But, to be in another state and parents say thank-you, it means alot to my soul. You never fully understand your impact until you are gone. Although I'm in a different state, I'm still available and that will NEVER change~

Sometimes, in our families thank-yous need to be expressed too. I have 2 cousins who mean so much to me. One calls me her big sister and her little sister call me her other mother. This morning, my baby( the little cousin) had a fb status up that said like my status for a comment and rate. She rated me, off the scale and told me she misses me. I don't know why but it did something to my soul. You every sit and just think about life and how through the ups and downs no matter what Love & Thank-You can conquer it all.

So, today is simple for me! I'm sending out thank-yous to everyone I love and know. Thank-you for being apart of my life.
Whether good or bad, Thank-You
Whether we speak everyday or not, Thank-you
For love and support, Thank-you
For friendship, Thank-you
For even not liking me, Thank-you the most( you're pushing me to not change and become BETTER)
For challenging me to become better, Thank-you
For removing yourself from my life, Thank-you, we weren't going in the same direction anyway)
For talking about me, Thank-you made me work harder to live a life that proves your words wrong


Is there someone you need to THANK today??


For loving me and

I Ain't Gon Lie

I Ain't Gon Lie

It's hard...
You want to tell me when life hands you lemons to make lemonade..
Tuh,
How about making a $ out of 8 pennies..
Pay a light bill when rent is due,
Tell a child you don't have it and mean it because you don't..

( shrug)
I believe in taking the high road in every tough situation.
Stick it out, it'll get better.
The best is yet to come just hold on...

I'm holding on put the rope is thin,
I'm holding on but I want to give in..

It's hard...
Taking care of everything without a break in sight..
Wake up tired, trying to find rest when you're tired.
It's a win lose situation
But I was told quitting is for losers so I'm going to keep on striving

It's hard...
Making it where nobody knows your name
And everyone is out trying to gain just a lil' bit of fame.

It's hard...
Struggling within myself to find myself,
Struggling to stay afloat when sometimes I could really just jump off the boat..

But I Win,
I win
I win
I win

It's an uphill battle
But someone has to do it
I gotta make it to the top
I gotta show my babies that thru it all, living your life is worth the fight

It's hard..
But I'm going to stay on my knees
When I'm praying I'm refueled
When I'm refueled I'm stronger
And when I'm stronger
No matter how hard it is
No matter how many times I'm told no,
There's a YES waiting for me and I must carry On~

It's Only a Test....

"We're only as strong the commitments we make and the friendships that are tied to them"

I'm guilty.. Guilty of getting upset with people, not telling them how I truly feel and then writing them off. Yup, I'm admitting it. I know that I'm extra, but my extraness makes me. I'm extra with loving hard and pushing others but I fail with doing the same thing with myself.

Yesterday's message at church was a tough pill to swallow because Pastor Dee was talking to me. I follow thru with my child, I have consistency with her. But when it comes to me, yeah I fail. I instantly thought of a few friendships I've made during my short time in Georgia and it made heart ache. I'm secure and confident in who I am and I sometimes expect each person I meet to posses some of these same qualities. I'm learning that, we're all made different for specific reasons.

I sat and thought of my mission in life. I'm here to be a service to women and children. I'm always reminded of my 1st year here when I didn't have a huge support team. I had a few relatives here but there was distance between us. When I finally landed a job it was then I began to meet people. Thru meeting various people I learned more about me as I encountered people of different backgrounds and lifestyles.

Yesterday, I spent sometime with a sisterfriend. It's funny how we always expect to be the one teaching a lesson when in actuality, the lesson has already been taught we just need to live by the results.
It's funny, I've felt for a while since I've been away from Boston, I've become an out of mind our of sight relationship with quite a few people. How ironic, I felt the same way about the sistergirl I was with. And it hit me like a ton of breaks, God allowed our paths to cross for a specific reason. I'm here to encourage and help and just because a person has been removed it doesn't mean the task has been completed. After our conversation yesterday, God reminded me that the work wasn't done and although I thought it was he reminded me, do unto others as I do unto you. and that means, the same way God blesses me I'm to pass it forward and bless others.

I know personally that sometimes, I give up. I don't give up because I'm lazy, I give up when I feel a person isn't listening or trying. Hmmmmmm, but GOD never gives up on me. Lately, alot of things have been returning to my memory because( like I previously stated) my path has crossed with specific people for specific reasons.

I can no longer fail these simple test. I need to take responsibility for who and what has been placed in my path and do whatever the job is that has been set before me. Task are not complicated, we make them complicated by not following thru and having to revisit them down the line.

I'm never to big to apologize and I found myself in a somewhat of an apologetic state with a few people I've encountered. I'm not sorry because it failed or we fell out. I'm sorry I didn't pass the test. My test are tied up to my blessings, if I pass I'm blessed. If I fail, I have to start from the beginning all over again. Sheesh, that's a lot of work!

So, today my challenge is that we find the strength within ourselves to simply pass the test. I mean seriously, how hard can it be? Just like in school you either know the answer or you don't. PERIOD~

Each day I become stronger when I help someone else. When I help to build character and provide consistency and share how I really feel vs walking away, I'm doing the work God has placed me on Earth to do!

~Make your Day gREat and your life gReater~

" don't look at me to judge me, Look at me to be encouraged and Inspired to find strength to keep doing better"


I glanced at you yesterday
But knew something was up.
Your smile was gone and your face was turnt up.

I know each day doesn't predict a smile
But the facials you where showing just made my heart ache.
Each smile that we think is the prettiest, is filled with hurt.
Behind closed doors, you deal with the hurt.
Feeling neglected, feeling alone, the world doesn't have to know, so I'll fake it til I make it and give them a Pretty Smile.

A hidden Glance

I glanced at you yesterday
But I knew something was up,
Your mascara was running and your eyes did not light up.

I know each day your eyes will not sparkle
But today I felt for you and wondered,
Why does the hurt look so bad. The look you gave was one of pure disdain, no love, just hurt and a cold,cold stare. You're mad at someone or even something and and that distant glare is lifeless, no expression.

A hidden Glance


I glanced at you yesterday
But knew something was up,
Your heart was shattered and you wouldn't look up..

You wore pain filled with silence. I wanted to help but didn't know where to started,
I wanted to speak but the words would not depart,
I wanted to hug you but my arms were to far apart...
I did what I knew best and wrote..

Dear Unknown
Everyday I'm stealing a glance,
I wonder about you and who you are..
you are beautiful,
lovely eyes, pretty smile, beautiful heart.
But you HURT... The words are not always there but I want you to know I care.
Without speaking, you speak to me.
And I just want you to know It'll get better.
Your hardships are becoming your book, your book is becoming your story and your story is your testimony on how you MADE it.

So, I'll keep with my hidden glances
But know, what you're going thru is giving me the strength to keep going.
Because if you haven't given up neither should I...

" The test isn't who's suffered the worst, the test is who went thru it and came out stronger"

The almighty Hook Up.....

I'm telling you, hook ups are sometimes good and sometimes they are the WORST. When I moved to my new community, I was on a strict budget. I was working for a company who didn't know my worth so, I basically had all the important things I needed in my home. Cable was NOT a necessity. We got the basic channels with our outdoor antenna and had internet. Yup, were good!!

My then neighbor, approached me one day and said, "Who's your cable with"? I looked like,(Blank stare) " dude, I can't afford cable, why you ask"? Well, I work for Comcast and I can hook you up for the low low when you're ready. Ok, cool I thought. He gave me his cards and told me to pass them along. I'm all about helping others, I think( scratches head).

I asked a few of my neighbors about him and they all vouched, he's legit, go for it, he did ours. So, I finally broke down and he installed it.

Life with cable was AWESOME~~ We had every channel.. Man, it was awesome til one day everything stopped!! Black, Bam, Done!! I knocked on my neighbors door to let him know and this dude caught an attitude. It lasted all of 2 months, the Almighty hook up, unhooked!!

We quickly healed and moved on( loosing cable was devastating)and went back to life without cable.

This year, another hook up rolled around. And what did I do, yup you know it, jumped on it.. And what happened? yup, unhooked again!!

As I flipped thru the channels left( or lack thereof) it hit me, I don't have to settle for a hook up.. As the saying goes, shame on me for letting the same mistake happen twice.

What seems to be a good chance to skip out and get ahead will always come back and get yo' tail. Keep it 100 and pay yo' fare!!! No more hook ups around these parts, if I can't get it the right way, I'll just go without and I'll still be just fine!

The almighty hook up, pass me by! I'm all set~~ Guess I'll go thru my junk closet and dust off my antenna, AGAIN~ HAHAAAAA

Its in the Ground...

Because of my deeply rooted Christian beliefs, I tend to look for the hand of Jesus upon everything. I mean, shouldn't we? He IS the creator of EVERYTHING, right?.. Another blog for another day.

The Sunday before we departed was Super Sunday at my church. It was the Sunday where we bought an offering above and beyond what we normally give. It was our natural way of planting our spiritual seed... A Seed: To furnish with something that causes or stimulates growth or development( Merriam Webster, transitive verb).. My seed is NOW in the ground and I patiently await God's hand to move on my behalf! Oh YES, I believe..

As my mommy/friends and I walked the grounds we noticed "seeds" all over the place. Although water does not fertilize the seed, it surely helps to stimulate and promote GROWTH. I'm sure as people threw their change to make a WISH, they never thought of the spiritual aspect of it but the three of us surely did.

Our conversations soon turned to how it's hard for us to back each other as a people and help each other get to the top. We are so quick to spend vs investing and generating more revenue for a rainy day. As we caught the ferry over, there were "seeds"( change) in the waters, as we got on numerous rides, there were "seeds" planted all around and even if you looked hard enough, pennies were thrown every where...

Hmmmm, I thought.. I need to leave a "Seed" in the grounds of Disney. This is one of the most successful places in the WORLD. I believe if you invest in someone else's dream, you're investing in their success and yours too. I'm a small business owner right now but as I continue to help others, I'm making room for mine too. The family of Mr. Walt, will live off these riches of the LAND for days, months, years, decades and centuries. His kids, kids,kids,kids will live comfortable all because of a small seed that was placed in the ground.

I challenge each person who may read this blog to sow a seed. It doesn't have to always be monetarily but sow of your TIME, your SKILLS, your HANDS. You just never know what the outcome will be.

And once you make that initial investment, don't look for a reward right away, it takes time. But let the ground fertilize it, because in due time you will reap a bountiful harvest IF you faint not..

My Seed is in the ground and it's making room for me and Mine~

Dreams DO come True...

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" We need money to survive.. It either makes us or break us.. you decided how yours will make a difference in the lives of the ones you LOVE"...


I absolutely, positively LOVE my children( my bonus girls too). The circumstances on how they became mine does not change how I feel and the depths and measures I'd go through to protect them. There's an unexplainable LOVE & CONNECTION that comes along with the term Motherhood.


Last week was my daughter's spring break. Myself along with 2 other mommy friends and their girls, packed up the most comfortable van ever and headed to Disney World. Ahhh, Disney the place where dreams are made and Magic comes true.

As Thursday approached, I carried a hidden excitement in my heart... Here I am, 33 years old experiencing DISNEY with my own daughter and son( granted he may not physically remember it, but ohhhhh do I have pictures for DAYS....)for the 1st time. Growing up, my mom did alot of things with my brothers and I but it was 4 of us and only 1 her. But she made it work with what she had. If nothing else, our home was full of love and magic. The love and magic wasn't always in the money spent but it was what we did collectively as a family that lasted and mattered the most.

But, on this 5th day in April I stood in front of Walt Disney World with my 2 children ready to make magic of our own. There's a different kind of joy you experience being a parent. The pain from labor, the bad days, disappointing days, days where you have no answers cannot compare to Motherhood and the magic it posses within itself.

We caught the ferry ride over and in a matter of minutes, we walked the grounds together where Mr. Walt & Mickey Mouse changed the course of Family Vacations. It was so overwhelming and exciting all in one. My daughter just didn't know what to do!! Adorned in her Princess Tiana dress, hand in hand we walked through out the Magical Kingdom.

We were both in our own slice of Heaven. HOWEVER, I'm slowly noticing we have different levels of excitement!!! I'm Extra and she's more laid back!! LOL


As the darkness began to overtake the sky, we were apart of the Electrical Parade and we then booked it over to the firework display on the Castle. As Jimminey Crickett told his story, I stood and observed the families all surrounding the castle. Over 10,000+ people all standing experiencing the greatest place on Earth. Where dreams and magic are made. If we follow the dream in our hearts, there's no way we cannot become who WE aspire to be in life.

At the end of the spectacular firework display, there was a woman standing near me who was crying. It's funny, because we're you're in tune with life you tend to pick up on people's feelings. We embraced, not because we were sad but because we both knew what the other was feeling. She did not speak English but I understood she was filled with joy and happiness.

I looked at my daughter who was also full of tears and I embraced her. She then said, "Thank-You mommy for making this happen"... And my own well began to flow. It's hard being a parent and not always feeling that it's appreciated. But in that moment of "magic", I felt and understood everything my daughter expressed through her tears. Together, the three of us shared in a Magical Moment. While Matthew Ashton may not understand, it would NOT have been complete without him being there.

To my readers, parenting is hard. And although we may not always have what we feel we need to survive, if we can stop for a moment and embrace all that we've been blessed with as parents/families, we will realize Dreams can and DO Come True~

Monday, April 2, 2012

He Only Wants LOVE~~~

This piece is dedicated to all of my friends who's children suffer from Autism. While I know it's very challenging, I salute you all for being committed to your children.

This is a piece I wrote a while back off my first interaction with a child who's Autistic. I thank his dad George for allowing me to play a part in his life. Enjoy


I was apprehensive at first,
I'd never done what was now being requested of me.
His parents said, "He's hard to understand at times but he has a heart of gold"..
Okay, what am I getting myself into?
We walked outside and in his eyes I could see the excitement and I wondered, How long will this last?
All the signs were there and they pointed to the truth,
He only wanted to be Loved and that was that!
He grabbed my hand and proceeded to make me rub his arm,
I did because him feeling protected was my concern...
See, all the signs were there and they pointed to Him:
Wanting to be loved!!
Time progressed and I could see tiredness sneaking up on him,
But our time together was limited and it needed to count..
He finally laid down, and I sat next to him.
He once again guided my hand to his heart and he then began to mellow out,
He quickly sat up,
Starred at me and gave me a hug.
We shared a moment,
And in that instance I knew God makes no mistakes and each encounter is a valuable lesson.
We all are born differently,
Never raised the same,
But the message is clear,
Love is universal and we all crave it!
Although it was quick, together we made a difference,
And if only for a short time,
I gave him what he needed because:
He Only wants Love!!

This writing was based on my interaction with an autistic kid today! Sweetest little boy. His words were limited but in him I saw what all kids crave, LOVE! His parents were very friendly and dad said, " he is autistic"... And it made no difference at all! All kids are the same and its time we challenge ourselves and others to protect and love them!
Be Inspired, Be Encouraged!