Cheneka T. Is.......
- Sincerely, ChenekaT
- Atlanta, Georgia, United States
- I'm Cheneka, simply put!! I'm a Mother, Author, Business Owner and Co-Founder of Women Who Network, LLC. I recently became a published Author: Strategically Being Mom. Book number 2 is currently in the works. A series on things I've learned while being a Single Mom. I was born to help heal others through my words and actions. My greatest Joys are my children and to help others. You can find me on Instagram; womenbldgnetwrk( business) neka_th( personal).
Tuesday, July 4, 2017
But I wasn't looking at YOU....
My lovely people, its been a while and I have missed thee so. Life has been busy for me but that's no excuse.
I now have a 13 year old and a 6 year old. Let's just say, I'm really on my toes these days with the 6 year old. Full of lessons, fun and tears. To think, I ever doubted myself in this role of raising a son is absolutely crazy. God has given me strength that I never knew exsisted. His father and I have come a very long way and for that I'm extremely grateful. (We still disagree from time to time but it's healthy in order to be great co-parents and friends).
He and his sister argue like strangers in the night but I would'nt have it any other way. They are the loves of my life, not my whole life though because I believe the right man is enroute.. Yeah, I'm a bit more optimistic these days. I've always had a type but as I'm growing and maturing more, my type hasn't always worked, causing me to be more open to others... I'm sure a blog or 2 will come to pass sooner than later...
I do have a question though..... How do you respond to, " What are you looking at"? When my son gets in trouble, he's quick to ask his sister what is she looking at. Being the quick teenager she is, like clock work she responds, "Not you".. When I tell you its funny to me, I crack up every time.. BUT what about when a man says it, how does it make you feel? Do you feel slighted, does it anger you? Do you feel dissed?? I try mybest to ignore when men try to grab my attention. Sometimes, I'm just not up for the foolishness. Recently, a guy said to me, "Ms or MRS"? I thought, miss me with this bull... I digress
I was talking to a guy friend and he proceeded to tell me about a misunderstanding that went south. He was at the gas station and he happen to be looking back(missing a few bits and pieces) and 2 women assumed he was looking at them. LOng story short, he wasnt and they proceeded to act like donkeys, yelling and cursing. They even pulled outh their phones and started recording!!MA'AM!!!
Women, do we sometimes act foolish for no reason and men, do you sometimes add salt to injury with a hard cold diss??
It happens more than it should but ladies, all men aren't looking at us. And men, just because we acknowledge you doesn't mean we want you.
When I see a handsome man or even a beautiful woman, because I'm secure in who I am: I have no issue with complimenting them. I'll take it even further, I may not even be checking you out physically, I may be drwan to how you're dressed. I love to see well dressed men and I love to see well dressed women. It gives me ideas on how to arrange pieces in my closet and a well dressed man gives me hope....sighhhh
As we get older, our approach with the opposite sex changes. We're either attracted to them or we're not. We may look but it's not always a situation where we want to touch. We may wink only
because they smiled or nodded. Let's stop confusing every man as a boy raging with hormones and
men stop assuming you're going to get it just because.
I may not have been looking at you to get with you but I was checking you out!! Let's admit it and move forward..
Signed,
Blogging for the mature and sexy
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I have to agree wholeheartedly! I look at both men and women because I love to see stylish people. When I look at a man even ifI am looking because he is someone I'd love to know.... it does not mean I want him to actually engage me. And I can totally appreciate a man finding me attractive however just let me take the compliment and keep it moving. I may not be here for the extra that goes with it.
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting this!
ReplyDeleteI am getting older, and sometimes a look doesn't mean I want you, I can just look and admire. People that are hung up on engagement and interaction shouldn't come outside, lol. Nothing more than a compliment should be taken lightly. Hopefully some folk grow up and learn to give and receive the ego booster a bit better
Insecurities are often the key reason behind the defensiveness. Once one is secure within themselves, the need to be "on guard" fades. Oftentimes we miss our blessings because the very things we've been praying for may be tied up in our response to a situation. But thankfully, we have posts like this which allows us to open up the dialogue with ourselves to perhaps see things from a different perspective.
ReplyDelete"what are you looking at?" - depending on how it's asked, the tone and delivery obviously matters. It's not something you normally hear in a pleasant tone but one can tell if there's sass or attitude tied to it (which will normally affect response). Me, I admire people in general, especially those that walk their truth and with confidence. If anyone asks me the question, I'll smile and keep it moving these days, might even through a "God bless you" blessing. Hopefully they don't catch me on an off/PMS day �� because God knows, I'm stlll work in progress ��
ReplyDeleteYyyyyeeeeezzzzzz!!! You hit the nail on the head with this one!!
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