I always hear, "Nek you got some good hair, is your hair relaxed, and my fave What are you mixed with"...??? It's all in the hair or is it?
Growing up was a nightmare sometimes. I always had super long hair and when my mom washed it, it was an all day process. Wash, condition, press, grease scalp, comb and style. I was so glad it wasn't a weekly process!!
I never really needed a relaxer( yall do know there's a difference between a relaxer and perm right). I got my 1st relaxer at around 12 and my last real one at about 23 years old and for like 2 or 3 years after that, I got what 1 would call just a halo( relaxer around the edges because they were what I perceived as nappy)SMH.
During my High School years, my uncle styled my hair. Every other Thursday( I worked part-time in my grandmother's hair salon) was my day to get pretty. I swear, my classmates would always ask if my hair was a weave! LOL I did attempt to glue a track in my hair once and it looked a hot mess! I never did that again. I was never big on braids either. Tried that a few times. I never understood the hoopla associated with weave and braids. Too each his own, I suppose...
Now that I'm an adult, I'm learning how to properly care for my hair. How to train my curl pattern and the importance of drinking water. Water keeps the scalp replenished and it helps to retain the nutrients needed to keep it healthy. There are so many treatments I now know about because I'm 100 percent natural.... Ahhh, natural.
There are so many different levels of natural. I've witnessed a number of friends doing the BC( big chop) and joining the Au Natural journey. We've joined hair groups, sought out different products in in the name of taking care of my hair..
I've learned, good hair isn't just always the grade/grain of our hair, it's how well we care for it. Who wants to walk around with a mane that resembles a lion? hmmmm, some do but I'm hoping it's by choice.!!!! lol
We all can obtain good hair. Whether your hair is,( As my sistergirl once said), " straight N1 hair( negro hair) or as my bestie told me, my hair(mine) is 1/2 bred, ( I died at both), WE all can have nicely styled and healthy hair!! Some of us will result in the usage of creamy crack, some will use berries and juices, some will seek out products to make it curl just right! Whatever boat you choose to Rock in, make it work for you and embrace your hair!! Cause, it's not about the grade of hair but how well you maintain it~~~
fun read. thx for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. There is such a big deal with the natural v. straight thing. I've been relaxing my hair for 35 years. Only once I went without for 6 months. I put a sew in to try and get my hair to grow again after a beautician caused me a lot of breakage. Because I didn't use products on my hair and maintained my weekly appointments, it worked. My hair is getting back to normal and it's health again. I just hope it gets fuller. I take hair infinity vitamins and I use castor oil weekly as a treatment. It doesn't matter how you wear your hair and I agree it's a personal choice. I don't knock women who wear natural and I wish they didn't knock those of us who don't.
ReplyDelete@A2B, you are so right! girl, I don't knock anybody!!!! Cause I know what it's like being on both side( only difference I got my hair relaxed twice a year)of the hair drama!!! LOL
ReplyDeleteThose natural women can be some beasts, can't they, Attorney2Be???? I can say that, because I am one before anyone decides to jump no me. I totally agree. The way you choose to wear your hair (natural, relaxed, jheri curled, braided, fried, died and laid to the side!) is your personal choice and no one should feel pressured to make changes or follow a set routine. My hair does not make me. Once we start embracing that, then we'll be able to make some much-needed changes in our ways of thought in regards to beauty. Great post!
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