Hurt people MUST Heal....

My time in Huntsville has finally come to an end. It’s been filled with lots of lessons and above all Patience. I’ve wanted to jump the gun on many occasions and leave but a block was placed each time until NOW. I couldn’t appreciate the blocks when they were there but now..... Whew! I’m better because I had to pick them up and learn the lesson while removing the sting of being here.

This morning as I’ve read through 4 years worth of blogs, I can honestly say I had to come thru Huntsville. In my early 30’s, I dated someone from here. I even intended to move here at some point. Who knew life ( GOD) already knew I’d come thru this place and it would NOT be with Mr. September!

As I reflected on life and my growth, I’m thankful for each person I’ve encountered. I’m thankful for the relationships that have truly lasted a lifetime and I’m even thankful for the ones that have been brief, for there was a lesson more than anything else.

I must say, while in HSV I’ve encountered a lot of hurt and broken people. Just recently, I was told of a conversation that was had about me. I’m sure it was meant to break me but it truly made me laugh and work harder towards my exit plan.

I believe we have to hear things in order to process how people truly feel about us. I’ve been called many things but to hear “ you ain’t shyt” was low....Whew that’s an all time low. And while I could’ve chose to blog about many things, I just want to end the year on this note.

It’s okay to seek HELP! There are so many people who are walking around bleeding out on others because they haven’t found ways to stop their own bleeding. In turn, they lash out hurtful and insensitive words because that’s all they know. They respond with hurt because they’ve been hurt.
They’re negative and even a bit selfish... if nothing else, I’ve learned now more than ever; we cannot carry the hurt and baggage of others. And if we continue to stay in that type of environment we’ll conform.

I like a good Challenge. So my lovies here goes,
I challenge each of you finish 2019 with dropping baggage that isn’t yours. Drop words curses, remove friendships/ relationships that are toxic, leave dead end jobs that will not produce growth and LOVE YOURself like only you can.

Life happens extremely fast. Do not let another 10 years pass and you’re  still in the same cycle. BREAK it! Only you can change what you do not like and only you can decide when enough is enough!

If you don’t know, you now do!

ChenekaT the Blogger is back!

I’ve laid low for a while to rebuild, refocus, rest and renew. Sometimes we have to be strong enough to admit we need a little help but we also have to know when we’ve gotten all we can and it’s time to STAND again!

It’s Wednesday and guys we’ve made it. You’re better than anything that’s trying to hurt you and tear you down! Believe it!!!

Take time to heal... and in healing it doesn’t always mean making old relationships new again. To heal  means to pull off the band aids and let fresh air hit the wound. If we keep covering it up, we’re not breathing thru it. We’re not acknowledging it. We’re aware but we haven’t tackled it.

Fight thru for your happiness and work even harder to heal your hurt. You’re no good to anyone if you’re 1st no good to yourself!

Thanks everyone who has been on this 2 year journey with me while in HSV. It’s time for me to get back to living!!

Sincerely,
The Blogging Queen,
ChenekaT

Fit MY way

I like food but I LOVE fitting my clothes and they not feel snug way more. I'm a lowkey fluffy girl but I work hard at keeping it together. 2 years ago I decided no more struggling with finding clothes to fit. I'm now comfortable in the skin I'm in. 

I had to realize it wasn't the food that was going to kill me, I was killing my self by carrying excess baggage. One day I woke up it hit me, you're not the pain you're carrying, you're not the hurt nor the bad relationships. You're Cheneka, simply put and you need to find her. You've lost enough, it's time to win again. 

Don't get me wrong, some days I struggle with completing my 2 miles, hell I struggle with finding the energy to do it. But deep down I know it must be done. 

This week, I've hit the pavement and it feels so good being one with nature. The outdoors is my best friend. I find peace and serenity. I can talk to God and even cry( good happy tears) if I feel like it. I added ankle weights today. At first it was a bit uncomfortable( but we all know a little bit of uncomfortable never hurt anyone, it pushes you to greater) but once I got my sway( yes hunni I work these hips when I walk) it was easy peasey!! 

My Lovies, I challenge you to start, find, continue on your journey to being fit on your terms. So what you have friends who like the gym and are smaller around the waist. We each work and succeed at a pace that's best for our lives. My faves are walk/ runs, jump rope, squats and walking with weights ( 1.5-5lbs).. This is what works for me, I challenge you to do what works for you and watch you'll get the results you want!! 

It's Thursday!! Be Tough, your were built for it!! 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

I'm in Love...

Oh yes I am! In love with the concept of building a life that I love.. 

Took quite a few bumps, detours and start overs but I finally get it, I got it and now I'm good. 

My first shot at being a business owner has been an amazing success. I knew my idea would work but who knew for 4 years my service would remain in demand? I'm forever grateful to my clients and staff for trusting me and riding the waves. 

As 2015 comes to and end, I'm beyond excited for all the new things I'm allowing myself to build upon. When you love someone or something, you'll go to the ends of the earth to make it work. These size 7.5s have taken me far in 2015 and in 2016 we will continue to trod the distance. 

I've found out that waking up happy every single morning sets the tone and the atmosphere for my day. Life is looking up. I'm not only building a life that I love but I'm building a life for my children to love. It's exciting yet scary but I'm

Here for it. 

Love Life: it's going to happen. I believe it, trust it and I'm excited.. 

Physical Life: I'm going to continue working hard at being aware of my body and tuned into my need to be healthy and fit( on my terms). 

Parental Life: I'm looking forward to watching my children grown and become who they are destined to be. 

Spiritual Life: God hasn't left me, he won't leave me and as long as I stay receptive he's going to keep guiding me.. 

Financial Life: the more I invest in MY dreams and MY education, the rewards will be priceless. 

My Lovies, your declarations may be different than mine but if you start making them now and setting your self up for greatness, you will not fail. 

My heart is still full. For once I see everything coming full circle and I'm loving all that I see.. Stay tuned, only up from here!! 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka 

I'll NEVER be Skinny because I DON't WANT 2!!

Am I dying to be skinny or Healthy? Hmmm.. Being skinny has NEVER been in my genetic make up. I'm 30+ and the smallest I've ever been was a 10. Two kids later & LIFE, I just want to be alive, able to race my daughter and not lose my breath and use this jogger stroller and enjoy fresh air with my son/family.

This last week 1/2 has been AWESOME. No red meat, no fried foods, no sweets& no strong drink. I've drank enough water to make me go like a camel and blended fruits I normally wouldn't drink into a nice smoothie( Ice, fruit, 1/2 cup of yogurt or V8 blend). I don't want to be skinny just better.

So many times, society gives us an image and facts that just don't fit every life style. While, its easy for people to decide to stop eating meat, the choice is still there to grab Mc.D's because its easier. The choice to be better, do better and produce better is one that's sometimes a battle within ourselves.

I listen to my daughter and at age 7, she already has a clear idea of what and how she wants to look. I remember when I was at my highest size 18, she was 3.5 and she told me" Mommy, you're fat but you're still the prettiest mommy I know"( hmmmmph, I'm the ONLY mommy you have chick). But it triggered, do I want to be skinny and still eat a boat load of junk, or do I want to be healthy and live better for us? I choose to just live better.

My fave activity is walking. I walk when I'm happy, I walk when I'm sad, I walk with heels and sneakers. I can walk a mile and not even feel it. Just give me some WATER! I walk because its good and because I can control it. Just like I can control what I put into my body.

Being healthy and eating to be skinny are so totally different. The same way Healthy Choice can cook chicken to be healthy so can we. I'm not obsessed with being something that would take away from who and what I am. I LOVE food. Give me some collard greens and turkey necks any day... However, I'm not going to go crazy with my seasonings either. My grandmother( RIP Mamount) would've put some hamhocks in them, fat back and any other fattening Southern "delicacy" she could find. Not me, I'm eating to be better and to live. And when you cook right, that same good taste is there.



So, debate if you must about whether or not women are eating to be skinny or healthy. I KNOw for a fact, Skinny does not and WILL not EVER look good on me. IT'S my choice how much I eat. There's a such thing as eating with portion control and eating slow to savor the meal. I've learned if you sit and eat as a family discussing your day, you tend to fill up because you are chewing vs eating quickly to hurry up.


I'm eating to LIVE...I'm eating to enjoy my children, I'm eating to wear clothes and have room in them. Ultimately,I'm Eating to LIVE RIGHT for me!

SN: However, if I do loose a pound or 5, that's okay because I have a pair of white pants calling my name for 2012!!