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You talk to much and you never shut up, shut up.. A big blabbermouth that is what you are, if you were a talk host you would be a Star...Run DMC

I promise, sometimes it's so hard just to Shut Up! I don't know if it's the trait of being the oldest( and needing to solve everything), the fact that I'm an Aquarius and we're savers of the Universe or the fact that I'm just a Woman. Whatever the case is, I have it bad!! 

But as of late, I'm learning that sometimes I just need to shut up. Every situation does not deserve the opinion of Cheneka( although in the back of my throat and under my breath, I promise I'm saying something, lol).. 

We all deal with life and situations differently. When I can't solve something, I get in my feelings and everything and everyone is against me. I know it's probably wrong but it works for me ( don't judge me). 

I was spending quality time with a guy friend and we were casually talking. As always I have an opinion but for once I said( outloud) " You know I have something to say but I'll keep my opinion to myself"... He responded, "Thank You".. Did he lowkey agree that I needed to shut up? Lol I'll never know and because he's a gentleman he'll probably never tell either.. Shrugs 

Ladies, how do you shut yourself up or do you wait to be told shut up?

Guys, how do you deal with your overly opinionated Boo??? Let's sound off... 

Signed, 

When you walk away, I'll be talking Again 

To Date or Not to Date....

Life is crazy sometimes... We marry, get engaged, date, get boo'd up and somewhere between Happy and Cloud9, it turns into a bad break up/ Divorce. 

Don't get me wrong, it doesn't happen to everyone but it happens and at a high rate. 

I have my fears of entering the scene again. Why? I JUST Do and from what I hear, men have these same exact thoughts to. 

After you've spent so many years with one person, where do you began with starting over? Who has the patience to learn someone new all over again? While returning to the X is never an option( for me) even though it feels comfortable to most, it's toxic ( they've been X'd out for a reason), it's just hard starting over. 

Personally, I would absolutely die being compared to someone's X and in the same breath, I would never compare either. It's an insult, a slap. We should all aim for a Gentleman, no part-time Punks here. Men aim for a Lady, no attitude carrying woman with past issues still lingering. 

As we all maneuver this thing called life and finding happiness, let's be mindful of whom we encounter and careful not to lead them on. ( there was this one time in band camp, I kissed a dude and he smushed my face! Tuh, I kid. I wish a ninja would) 

It takes a strong Man and even stronger woman( because we're emotional beings) to lay what we're feeling, our needs and wants on the table  and not get upset if the counterpart can't fulfill or accept them. 

I'm treading these waters lightly, glasses on and heart protected. So far, so good. 

Today my Lovies, enjoy You and be selective with whom you're spending time with and whom you decide to give the cookies to. Everyone is not deserving.. ( and men just because she has the cookie, she may not be deserving of your pipe, oops)!!! You'll know in your heart and in time when it just feels right. And if it feels right, go with the flow. 

We all deserve a few smiles and happiness here and there without the title and strings attached until we're ready.. 

Signed, 

Cheneka is Human....