To Date or Not to Date....

Life is crazy sometimes... We marry, get engaged, date, get boo'd up and somewhere between Happy and Cloud9, it turns into a bad break up/ Divorce. 

Don't get me wrong, it doesn't happen to everyone but it happens and at a high rate. 

I have my fears of entering the scene again. Why? I JUST Do and from what I hear, men have these same exact thoughts to. 

After you've spent so many years with one person, where do you began with starting over? Who has the patience to learn someone new all over again? While returning to the X is never an option( for me) even though it feels comfortable to most, it's toxic ( they've been X'd out for a reason), it's just hard starting over. 

Personally, I would absolutely die being compared to someone's X and in the same breath, I would never compare either. It's an insult, a slap. We should all aim for a Gentleman, no part-time Punks here. Men aim for a Lady, no attitude carrying woman with past issues still lingering. 

As we all maneuver this thing called life and finding happiness, let's be mindful of whom we encounter and careful not to lead them on. ( there was this one time in band camp, I kissed a dude and he smushed my face! Tuh, I kid. I wish a ninja would) 

It takes a strong Man and even stronger woman( because we're emotional beings) to lay what we're feeling, our needs and wants on the table  and not get upset if the counterpart can't fulfill or accept them. 

I'm treading these waters lightly, glasses on and heart protected. So far, so good. 

Today my Lovies, enjoy You and be selective with whom you're spending time with and whom you decide to give the cookies to. Everyone is not deserving.. ( and men just because she has the cookie, she may not be deserving of your pipe, oops)!!! You'll know in your heart and in time when it just feels right. And if it feels right, go with the flow. 

We all deserve a few smiles and happiness here and there without the title and strings attached until we're ready.. 

Signed, 

Cheneka is Human....