I've always cringed when ppl would attempt to honor me on Father's Day. I would quickly shoot down the wish because I'm confident in knowing I'm a great Mother. Although my role is a bit more challenging because I'm a single parent; it does not take away from who their fathers are. Had it not been for their fathers, my babies would not be here. I may not always agree with how they chose to be involved with my kids. However, I can honestly say it does not change who I am as their mother.
Relocating was MY choice. Did I feel at times that my kids would lose out? Hell yes BUT in order for me to grow, soar and be who I am, I had to do it. Some days are harder than others. Some days I cry hard, some days only a few tears fall.
Ultimately, I'm ok with just being their mom. I know there are things they can and will only learn from their fathers and I'm ok with it. I embrace them having a bond with their fathers.
Today, in this moment my heart is full. Not because my daughter sent this text but because she understands that I play a significant role in her life. My Cubs and I are close. We grow together, we laugh together and sometimes we cry together. It makes us stronger.
I know some really Amazing Dads. I could never ever walk in their shoes as I would hope they would not want to walk in mine. I have one guy friend in particular who is the perfect model to keeping the lines of communication open after divorce. We talk quite often( well he does the most talking 💙) and he's always on the move to either see his kids or pick them up. I commend him quite often because dads are given the raw end of the deal.
Today my Loves, let's find it in our hearts to forgive ourselves for some of the decisions we've made. As we forgive ourselves, let's then find ways to see the positive in our children's fathers( or mothers for my male subscribers). It's not always easy but it's possible. Our children's attitudes will be a reflection of our feelings and emotions. We grow wiser and stronger daily, let's pass that trait to our children..
Signed,
I'm better because I'm NOT bitter
Well said!!!!
ReplyDeleteHe does MOST of the talking!! LOVE IT!! I admire your strength as a Mom!! No one understands how single Moms do so much even when we are weak but we do!! Even though I am married now being a Mom is the greatest and hardest job there is!!
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ReplyDeleteI get what Li is saying... it's not that you're trying to be her dad but that you are everything to her... both parents per se... she knows who she can really count on... people get pissed when mothers are wished a happy father's day but I find myself wishing single dads a happy mother's day because like us, they're everything to their kids... I wished my dad a happy mother's day after my mom died because he had become our everything. My miniMe tells me happy father's day every year; she knows I'm not her dad, who chose not to be part of her life, and that I'm not trying to be. We know that God has our back and for that we thank God for the protection AND the rejection!! Good piece, sis!!
ReplyDeleteWell said..
ReplyDeleteI agree with the other sentiments, well said
ReplyDelete#Salute ....well said.
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