But HE knows..

We all need great friends. I always thought men and women could never be friends without sleeping together. When I was younger, if you talked to a guy and he had a girlfriend, you were trying to steal him. If you had a friend who was married, your name came up in an argument because you want him.. The lists go on and on..  

Oh have I proven each one wrong. Some of my best friendships are with men. One of my longest standing friendships is with a guy. One of my first friends when I 1st moved to Boston and lived on Columbia Rd. To this day( and he's married) we're thick as thieves. I give him a woman's perspective when he and the Mrs have a disagreement and he gives me the male perspective when I'm receiving mixed signals from guys I met. 

I'm appreciative to all of my male friendships. I've learned that it's okay to have male friends. Just this week, another close male friend and I discussed boundaries. And whether or not we believe we should have them; boundaries are sometimes needed. They keep you from making choices you'll later regret. 

Not only do our husbands, boyfriends and guy friends need us but to some degree we need them too. 

Aside from my brothers, some of my most sound advice and support, comes from my guy friends. 

True friendships are hard to come by. Especially friendships of the opposite sex. We determine the level of respect and appreciation given in these friendships. I must admit, if you think you may be attracted to a guy friend, do not cross those lines and try and build a relationship. Not that I've ever done it but I'm sure if it doesn't work you can't go back to just kicking it! 

Today, I stand firm in being a confidant, good listener, no crap taker in my guy friendships. Sometimes, the pill is hard to serve when you have to speak harsh truths but if the friendship is true, you get thru it, you grow and remain tight!! 

Shout out to my homies who appreciate the kid.. I appreciate and love y'all too!! 

Signed, 

Simply Thankful for my guy homies!! 

Snatched Hunni...

I swear, I have friends who I laugh with, cry with, be petty with( although I'm mostly the petty one and I pull them in) pray with, grow with.. I mean my circle of sisterfriends IS quite amazing.. I know for sure I'm no easy pill so if they've been around longer than 5 years, they're the real MVP lol! 

It's funny, they each play a specific role in whatever season I'm in. Yesterday, my Sissy and I talked about a number of things. Threw out a few why's and we even tried to come up with some solutions. We spoke a few of our heart's desires and then the petty came in.. Lol

Listen, I don't know about y'all but 40 is soon knocking at my door. Although it's hard to believe because I try to keep myself together; it hit me, I need to be Snatched & Prosperous by 40. I told my sissy, "You just gave me a blog".. As I sat and I pondered what does Snatched really mean? Is it having the small waist, make up being on point, hair down my back, nails together?? To me, Snatched is what YOU feel it s for your Life.. I can walk around in a pair of leggings but if I have a little lip gloss on, eye liner on these 2 here eyes and some mascara then Hunni I'm together.. If my undergarments doing their job and holding certain things in then yup I'm snatched. I must admit, body alteration is the way some of us chose to go.. But if you just take a few minutes and walk/ run/ drink water instead of koolaid then you're well on your way.. 

And the PROSPEROUS part!!! Listen, I promise Father you can trust me! I mean I've fooled over my money before but right NOW today, You can trust me!! Yup, I'm going to tithe into my church, I'm going to help the homeless( maybe even open a shelter), I'll invest, sow seeds, remove debt BUT I'm also going to buy a few bags, houses and some shoes.. I mean can't look snatched but wearing shoes from 8 seasons ago! 

I won't go overboard but just enough to match that Snatch!! 

Hey, it's okay to laugh a little but it's even better to declare a few things too!! Ladies I'm declaring SNATCHed and PROSPERITY become my portion.. 

Ang guys, don't get it twisted you too can be Snatched!! 

Just a little blog humor for your Friday!! Enjoy this long weekend and work on being snatched for next week!! 

Signed, 

Simply Snatched Cheneka 

Words Can Heal..

Hey my Lovely followers! I know, it's been a while. I've actually set up a mini blogIG, NekaTSpeaks on Instagram ( go follow if you haven't already)  But it hit me, I have to make time for this spot too. This is where I truly found my voice in the blogging world. 

Here's my truth:: after a lot of hurt, my motto became, " Your words mean nothing, I need action". If a guy said he liked me, whelp I needed him to show it. If a person said they have my back, ok show it.. Whew, thank God I've grown and matured. Although, thinking in this manner is warranted from time to time, sometimes a person's word is their bond and we have to believe it until they show you different.. And when they show you, then you can look for it to show thru their actions. 

I have this friend whom I talk to almost daily. At first it was simple talk, laughing at our kids, talking about relationship woes ( I mainly listened, I'm as single as 1 dollar bill 😂😂😂) and life plans. Then our conversations started to mature. I began to look at this person more than someone who needed an outlet ( because I didn't see it then but I needed an outlet too) but as someone who was growing. We were helping each other grow without physically knowing. 

This person later said to me, " You know your words bless me".. I'm like my words? They responded "YES".. I'm like give me an example..( u know we thrive off of examples lol) they simply said, " I find comfort in your words because they've healed me and given me strength". 

Maybe it's just me but I'm quick to say, " who me" and the response has ALWAYS been, " why not you". 

Today, I challenge you to speak life into someone else. We're all battle with something or another without having to share it with the world. Speak Peace into someone who's battling with inner turmoil. Speak Love into someone who has felt less than all of their life. Speak motivation into someone who wants to give up. 

There is more power in our words than we know. To my followers, I speak an abundance of Happiness, New Beginning,Financial Blessings, fulfillment on your jobs and Peace in your homes. Be someone's balance today. 

Be their safety. 

We have the power in our words.. 

Signed, 

Simply Cheneka aka Word Girl..