I'm just his Mom...

This week has been an emotional roller coaster for me.. I'm raising my son alone. Although this was never in the plan; life is such, full of unexpected changes. And what do we do? Make adjustments and keep pushing. 

It was easy when my daughter was this age. Why wouldn't it be? I'm a female to. Simple things made her happy. But with my son? It's never simple! Lol

Together, we've ( the 2 of us) mastered potty training, learning to spell his name, his birthday, colors, shapes and numbers. The funniest is his distinction between today clothes and tonight clothes( his night clothes). He'll wake up and say, "Mommy I need my today clothes" and he'll proceed with grabbing what he sees fit to wear for the day. Some days he grabs shorts and if you see us in public and he has on shorts, just know it was a battle and he won! Lol

But it's more complex than that. We'll soon tackle the task of bike riding. And although I would love for his father to teach him, I'm going to put on my cape and the 2 of us will accomplish it. 

I've shed more than a few tears this week but it's just nature's way of helping me grow so that I can continue STRONG in this role of being a single parent( for both boychild and girlchild). 

Tears are good, they cleanse us of any toxins we do NOT need. I'm cleansing my soul this week. Decluttering my mind and keeping it moving. 

Today, this blog is for my Single Moms and Single Dads. The road is never easy. We go above and beyond for our children and sometimes we forgot that we must live too. We must find the balance between parenting and having a social life. It's so easy to consume ourselves in parenting that we forget we exist as a person. I challenge each of you, take a moment for yourself and breathe. Enjoy some quiet time. Take a moment or 2 just for YOU. Embrace friends in similar situations and grow together. We're only as strong as the circle holding us up. 

I'm Cheneka. A Lover, a friend, a Listener, nurturer and Giver. They all help me to be a great Momm. But before I was a Momm I was ME, today my lovies, Be YOU. We existed before parenthood and we must continue to exist through it... 

Signed, 

Loving Myself and ALL my Single Parents 2

Let's Toast

My niece is friggin amazing. I remember the 1st time I met her. This spoiled rotten 3 year old in a purple and black shearling leather coat. 

Who would've ever thought she'd be one of my driving forces to keep pushing myself to the limit. 

World, look out for my babygirl Brittanie La've( she's gonna kill me, thank God I'm in GA) Allen. Future lawyer. 

Although I don't see her as much as I would like, we always pick right back up when we play catch up. Did I mention she's also my kids' Godmom? A responsibility she does not take lightly. 

The epitome of class, Grace and elegance. She makes me proud and my heart smile. She's currently completing Law School in Massachusetts( my hometown). She has already sat on a high profile case( the Boston Marathon Bomber) and just last week she informed me that, her boss chose her to help work the Black Lives Matter, Mass Chapter. Do you see why she makes me proud?

She has overcome many obstacles to get where she is right now. I'm glad that she chose me to be apart of her village. 

NiecyBoo, my love for you is endless. I'm always a call, text, drive, flight away. You're never EVER alone. Its my charge and pleasure to keep you lifted in prayer and to support your every endeavor.

Thank you for also believing in me, Loving me (and the little people) and always taking the time to make your presence felt even thru facetime. We love you babygirl!

Signed, 

A Proud NekaBoobie( her term for her Fave Aunt) 

Let me Pop these tags..

Happy Friday my lovies!! 

The other day I was chatting it up with my sistergirl( like we already don't talk everyday, we're each other's Sanity pill) and she asked me what were my goals for this month? I'm like goals? I save an extra $150 a month, to continue eating better and feel good in my skin. That's enough right?

Apparently not. Lol 

She broke down her goals and it inspired me to rethink mine. 

I have this beautiful Jessica Simpson 2 piece( YES, I has a 2 piece) that I purchased a while back. Don't judge me. I have a bad habit of purchasing things and either 1) forget I have them or 2) never use it( I'm not a hoarder tho, whew). As I thought of my goals, I decided my goal for every month until June is to look better in it until I have the courage to wear it at a pool party or something. But I WILL wear it, THIS summer. 

I haven't always been comfy in my skin but as of late, I feel like I'm only as dope as I feel. Im working on it. 

This same SisterGirl and I got our free Yoga Mat and carry bag at DSW and my goal is to use it until I can't anymore! Let's make Goals and keep them yAll! 

Your goal may be totally different than mine but if we make them and hold each other accountable, anything is possible. 

This time June, these tags will be popped and like Tupac said, " All eyes( will be) On Me"... Don't believe me Just watch!! 

Make it a day of Goals!! 

Signed, 

Breaking the Internet!!!