For The Win...

This morning, I wasted no time waking up. Got up, prayed and prepared myself for the day. I HAPPILY flicked on every single light in the house and woke my children up. "Rise and Shine my little pretties"... Lol

My son got up first and walked into my bedroom. This kid says, " Only my sister going to school right"? Ummm no sir, you're BOTH going. Come on and let's brush your teeth( my stomach cannot handle HIS morning breathe, yuck).. 

While they both handled their business, I finished preparing their breakfast, found sneakers, put hats, scarves and jackets on the hook by the front door. Everyone out!! 

My daughter finished preparing her lunch, I served warm grits, fruit and milk and by 7:50 everyone was out the door! Like magic!! 

Listen, I've been on both sides of the fence. I've taught and I'm a parent. I understand the importance of everyone needing a break, I just wasn't prepared for 2.5weeks with an inquisitive 4.5 year old( if you know him you know that 1/2 means everything to his little life). Just this morning he said, "Mommy I can reach your cabinet, does that mean I'm 5"? No son, you're still 4, ( him) "No, I'm 4.5". Whatever works kid, whatever works. 

Today my Lovies, sit and enjoy a small piece of heaven. Peace & Quiet!! Who knew how crucial it is to just sit in silence. I've been moving so much that I've missed my moments of peace. Make time to enjoy time today.. It's for the Win and your Sanity... Lol

Signed, 

Neka T. Speaks 

Even the greats Rest...

This was a busy weekend to say the least.. Football, hair appointment, my daughter needed time with her BF and then I had to catch up with my Women's Organization partner for a few laughs and lastly, a day trip to Alabama to be with my son's Godparents and the christening of their baby girl. I did a lot of driving! Whew! 

But it's worth it. To see my children smile, to smile with people who are close to my heart and to have weekEnd wind down with my sistergirl is so totally worth. 

As I sat on my couch this afternoon, I was close to pulling my hair out because I had nothing to blog. I texted a few of my closest like, I need blog inspiration when all along, I had something to say. 

I try to avoid always having a message to convey to my readers, aha moments if you must. Sometimes, I just want to talk about nothing and be regular. But nothing about Cheneka is regular. I'm fierce, a go- getter, a pusher, a lover, a giver, I pray, I listen, I cry and I laugh. 

And for once, it's ok to not have much of anything to say. Because as my sister/ bestie put it, "Even the greats rest".. ... Tomorrow is Tuesday, in my attempt to continue being great, I'll run/ walk three miles instead of 2 because I was tired today! Random I know but hey, even this blog is Random! 

Thanks to all of my loves who attempted to give me ideas.. A piece of each of you is present in this blog( you know who you are, I love you immensely) 💋

Signed, 

I'm Not just a Blogger... 

To SHUT UP or not SHUT UP...

 I swear being told to Shut Up or Be Quiet when I was younger was the worst. It's funny, the person who told me to shut up the most was the person who told me to always speak my mind. My good ole Momma( Love You Mom). However, I must admit, I did have alot to say.

One of my mom's favorite stories to share is the time we were in the supermarket and this woman was stealing. When we got to the register, I politely opened my mouth and said, "Excuse me, but the woman behind us was stealing" ( how ironic she got in the same line).. My mother looked at me and gritted with her lips pressed tightly together," Shut UP before you get me Beat Up"( the other woman was huge and for any one that knows my mom, she's 4'11 and petite). Really, mom? You're telling me to shut up and I'm exercising my young rights to save the planet from  would be thieves. Needless, to say we didn't get beat up and we left the store in such a hurry that I was not able to witness the reward of me snitching out the thief!! LOL


I believe that was just the tip of the iceberg of me running my mouth. Sometimes, my words we're received, sometimes it wasn't , sometimes I received severe punishment and sometimes a swift slap to my mouth. Who would've ever thought I got slapped in the mouth? Yup, I did.

Later in life, during my 1st year of college, one of my professors made a comment that to this day still bothers me.. We were sitting in class and she had just given instructions for our final. I believe that when you don't understand you ask questions. In other words, I needed clarity. I raised my hand and she looked at me and said( in her thick Indian voice," Che-Neka, what is it now, You Always have a question"? I almost turned into TaMar and told her to get her life and that's why I'm sitting in your class to obtain the knowledge you posses. Little did she know,she added fuel to the fire. Every class there after, I had a question( upon completion of the semester Prof. Ravita Amarasingham had a heart to heart) Glad I never failed that course because I would've looked mighty stupid to have had such a smart mouth!!! LOL

Now that I'm older, I understand what Silence is golden means. There is a place for everything. There's a place to talk and sometimes just a place to listen and absorb like a sponge and use it at a later time. I've learned that sometimes, the energy we put in going back and forth is just a complete waste. Sometimes, we have to SHUT UP in order to really hear. And, it's not a bad thing just to nod, especially when your blood is boiling and you want to go off. Take a step or two back and refrain from saying something you'll later regret. The best feeling is to rationalize before you spaz and later regret it.

So, Yeah, I'm going to Be Quiet or even Shut Up for a bit BUT when I get my thoughts together and it makes sense, TRUST me, I'll be talking again..
In the meantime, think before you're quick to talk and have to be told to shut-up. There's nothing more embarrassing than being told to shut-up...