Grown Cliques..

This was a busy work week to say the least. I filled in for American Literature, Gym Drills, English and Science. Typically, its a different class each day but this week my schedule was consistent.

I definitely enjoy Sub teaching. It's rewarding and it provides a bit of change for the students.  Since I was spending full days on campus this week, I was able to mingle a bit more than usual. I was early enough to have breakfast along with staff and students. because I'm a people watcher, I typically just stand around and watch or I sit by myself. For some odd reason, I was inclined to sit with some co-workers. I experienced sitting with a grown clique.

Have you ever watched your children try to talk to other kids their age and you just want to run to their rescue and save them? That was me, I wanted to save myself. LOL  I saw a few familiar faces so I sat with them. I wish I had just sat alone or returned to my class and ate alone.

I felt out of place and like I was trying to hard. Yup, me Cheneka Hobbs: Ms. Outspoken, Ms. Get Along with Everyone, Ms. People lover!! I felt out of place, It's not that I was trying to hard, or looking to make new friends, I just thought as adults we could all sit at the same table and talk.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not having a fit over it. I just understand on an adult level " Grown Cliques".. This wasn't my first experience with it BUT I do hope it will be my last. The older I get, I'm becoming more aware of who I am and my levels of toleration.


My lovies, I challenge you to always make sure you're treating people the way you want to be treated. You treat them with respect and always be mindful of our actions intentionally and unintentionally. Some people are not as strong as they make themselves out to be.
This experience has been yet another eye opener for me. I'll be sure to think twice of other's feelings and my actions. I would hope that we do the same.

Signed,
I'm NOT a Mean Girl, just Simply Cheneka!!

Nothing Else Matters...

Some of my greatest joys are tied to Motherhood. My children are absolutely amazing. A little bratty at times but at the end of the day they are mine and I wouldn't have it any other way. 

My daughter is 11 and in the 6th grade. She's excelling in all of her classes. My son is 4 and he's in PreK.. Total opposite of his sister growing up. I mean he's a boy. It took us a while to conquer potty training and we're now working on reading, writing and pronouncing his words. 

I started working on name writing when was 2. I must admit, some days I was so frustrated because I felt like he just wasn't getting it. I figured, when it's time he'll get it. With being a former educator, it bothered me that I could help other kids get it right away but my own kid couldn't grasp it. 

School started for him mid-September. In a matter of weeks he was writing his name and spelling! I must admit, at first I was entirely in my feelings over it! How dare he go to school and all of my hard work is now accredited to his two amazing teachers? But it hit me, he needed an environment outside of working with mommy to get it. 

Just like life. One can know the way but sometimes it takes someone on the outside to push you to really be and do all you can. I marvel daily at how he's excelling. It makes my heart smile. It's hard at times, this whole single parenting thing but I know it's going to pay off. I'm thankful for the small victories. I know we have so many more hurdles to jump and I'm anticipating them. 

My Loves, I challenge you not to give up. There's a master plan and you're going to succeed just keep going. Keep moving forward. Don't allow anyone or anything to deter you from your BEST. Your best days are within reach, trust me I know. Stay strong, Work hard and don't give up. We didn't and now he's writing his name like a big boy!! 

Signed, 

Better becomes your BEST!! 

#catchIt 

I don't want your Money..

Growing up, my brothers' friends were always at our house. I think we were the convient house of the neighborhood. Right across from the Community Center and everyone called my mother "Ma". 

As I became a little social bug, my friends also started to hang out at my house. I never understood why my mother never said "No", until I became a mother. 

I believe what we give may not come back directly to us in our lifetime but if we sow into good ground, our off spring will reap from the harvest. 

I'm the neighborhood mom that if someone is acting up at the bus stop, I'll get them together really quick. Last year we had crazy winter weather. I would be the mom to load the kids in my truck and drop them off at my daughter's school.  

I guess one would say I'm in the right business of serving Families( especially single parents, they have a special place in my heart). But I look at it this way, what I put out in the universe will benefit my children. 

I've learned to not always expect something in return but to genuinely give of my time however I can. 

This month alone, at least 6 of my friends have prepared their daughters to move into college. One in particular is veryyyyyy far from home ( but Aunti Nek got her covered). I've watched their moms cry and the dads say hey I'm just a phone call, drive or flight away. While the girls are ready to start new chapters in their new found independence, the challenge for the parents have now become, how will my child adapt to life without me( yup you read right lol).. 

I believe this is where what we've given to the world will now return to our children. I've committed to my friends and their daughters to be readily available to them. No, I cannot take the place of mom but if you need a home cooked meal, a visit to the mall or hair salon or just in need of a motherly figure, "I got you". We're only as strong as the village we help to build. 

Today my lovies, if you're a parent I challenge you to trust that what you've given to the universe will now give to your children. What you have sown may not be for you but a plenteous harvest for your children. I'm excited for all of our children's futures because I have some amazing people in my village. 

Signed, 

I Give because I Care