Sometimes you have to STEAL....

I love my family but sometimes, I Love being under this dryer so much more... There's no1 laying next to me taking all the covers, no snoring and Peace of mind. Don't front, Yall know you like stolen quiet moments to yourself. Where nothing even matters. 

My time at the salon is priceless. I get to kick up my feet, read a few magazines and actually check my emails ( and not feel bad). My time at the salon is reFreshing and it gives me energy for the weekend. Granted I have to drive a couple of extra miles out of the way but it's stolen me moments. And how about this, it gives me time to blog. 

Yeah, I know this is probably a pointless, meaningless blog today...

But hunni chile, these stolen moments gave me absolute life today!!

Signed,

Hey you, Enjoy this Saturday!! 

For MY Sisters

I haven't blogged in what seems like forever. You know, life has an extremely funny way of helping us to prioritize and focus on what's important. And then, it has a way of smacking us too. 

I love MY life. It's not perfect but I love it. Some days I'm entitled to be mad( and I am) and some days I'm just happy as happy can be. 

Lately, I've been practicing balance and making time for me. I'm so consumed with everything and everyone else that I was forgetting about me. If I'm not well nor happy then how can I make anyone else happy? I mean, I'd become so good at pretending until one day it hit me that, you're only fooling yourself because nobody truly cares if you're happy or not. May sound harsh but it's true. 

Today, I'm challenging my sisters. As I've listened to so many of my clients, sisterfriends and just women in general, the same message is resounding. If it's not bringing you happiness, let it go. If it makes you cry, dry your tears and let it go. If you can't afford it, don't front: let it go. 

If it's clouding your judgement, clear your mind and let it go. 

Let it Go

Let it Go

Let

It

Go... 

It's always so much more easier said than done but when you're losing sleep and pulling out your hair, yeah it's not worth it. 

Your IT can be anything. It's up to you to acknowledge what IT is and Let it Go.. 

In close, I love the liberty to blog and I love the ability to Let it Go!

I love Yall, 

Signed, 

I clean and throw it out!! 

Do It Again

Sometimes I feel I'm a very great listener and sometimes, I find myself getting to involved in what I'm listening too that I share about me.

A sisterfriend called yesterday just to vent. I listened intently. At the end of the conversation she asked, " Nek what would you do if you were me"? ( insert sound of skreaching brakes with an abrupt halt) Why me? I thought out loud( so loud that she says) because it seems like you have it together... Oh( while becoming humbled and eyes filling with water) " I don't have it together and some days I so wish I did". 

Her:But Nek, I never see you cry.

Me: you probably won't because I chose to do it behind closed doors in the comfort of my own home. Do people bring me to that point? Oh yes, but I can't let them see me break. 

Her: so is crying a weakness?

Me: of course not. It's a cleanse, well for me anyways. But I chose to cry in my secret place because if to many people see you cry or hear that faint tremble in your voice, it's a wrap. 

Her: well yelling is my thing and when I feel like someone is coming for me, I tend to eleviate my voice. 

Me: that used to be me but it's in that moment you kill them with your level headed reaction. I always think, how would my children respond if they see mommy acting a fool. 

Her: I've let so many people walk over me that sometimes I feel they already have the advantage. 

Me: You will soon become tired of being a doormat and at a disadvantage. But YOU have to become tired. YOU have to decide that you matter and that you're just as important. Your words matter, your feelings matter and so do your thoughts. Practice using the word I and speaking in the form of I, it will do wonders for your self esteem. Learn to just worry about you because at the end of the day, you cannot speak for anyone else. 

Her: see!! See what I mean. You have it together. 

Me: I don't, I promise. I've just lived a little, cried a lot and learned that each day is a fresh new slate and the chance for me to do it again just better... 

Signed,

Get up & Do it Again