There's never a dull moment talking to my BFF/Sister and our bonus sister Dimpezz. The text went a little something like this,
" Mommy what does penis mean"? Yes, our 8 year old niece asked her mom what's a penis... My bestie was a bit taken a back but me, nah. Here's the why. When my daughter was 3, her then Pediatrician told me to teach her the correct term for her private parts. The scenario she set up made a lot of sense and every since then it has always stuck with me. I respect fellow parents decisions to use other terms but I don't. My son is 3 and he knows what his penis is and my daughter has been using vagina since she was 3 as well.
I remember when I was a Youth Worker/Coordinator back home. One of my Summer Employees was inappropiately touched while on the job. Although she was 17, when I wrote the report, I used private parts vs saying her breasts. Her mother was extremely upset. She asked me," why didn't I use the correct term"? I instantly thought of my conversation with my daughter's pediatrician.
Each parent is at liberty to teach their child whatever they chose. Whether you say, pee-pee, Winkie, khunkee or pocketbook. We need to make sure that our children can properly articulate if they have been touched, or if their "Private Spot" is in pain.
Today lovies, whatever your choice of word is let's continue to teach our children and help them to grow. Penis or Vagina? Readers, what term do you use?
Signed,
Team Vagina Monologues✌️
This is so true, children need to feel comfortable with talking to their parents. A lot of inappropriate touching goes unreported because children are not comfortable with talking about body parts. Good blog Neka
ReplyDeleteVery true
ReplyDeleteI was just having a similar conversation with my coworker the other day, She said that her boys use the word "hiney" instead of "butt" and basically that's because that's what she was taught by her mother. I don't have any children of my own yet however I suspect that when I do become a mother I will teach my children to use the correct terms like vagina and penis, not too sure about the "hiney" tho LOL.
ReplyDeleteI used the correct terms with miniMe... No sugar coating it!!
ReplyDeletethoughtful insight
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