Relationships: The ties that MAKE or BREAK US~

I'm telling you Marriage, Relationships & Love Lives are hard.. I sit and think of the ups and downs and sometimes because I'm worrying so hard I miss the Special Occasion, which is just being in LOVE. Having a BFF, who listens to me, cares about my thoughts and appreciates me for who I am.

Yes, there's nothing we can do about the hard times we encounter, nor the ups and downs. However, if there's less finger pointing and more communicating, there's a glimmer of longevity. You know, it is possible.

I was engaged in a conversation lastnite and a very poignant statement was made. If we do NOT make more time to fix issues vs blaming each other, screaming and forgetting why we're together, LOVE will no longer exist( i'm somewhat paraphrasing). If we're constantly saying what's wrong and never putting our thoughts together and developing a solution, we will never move forward. And, if you happen to embark upon a new relationship, you will take these same issues with you because you have never faced and attacked them head on.

I Love LOVE, being in love and seeing others in love. In my community of Black America, good relationships are hard to come by. Just the mere existence of two parents in a home is a hot commodity. While to some, all we see is the smile on the outside, we do not know the struggle( if any) that's taking place behind closed doors.

With so many women on their Independent (Black) Woman journey, accepting a (Black) Man into your heart and life is hard. This is a definite barrier. We're used to doing everything, He WANTS to do everything. We're used to opening the door and its his job to open the door, CHILVARY anyone?
The option of going forward is hindered based upon the woman's actions( YES women, let's admit it we mess up sometimes with trying to be Super Woman). We tend to become Super Women based off circumstances beyond our control. BUT we should not allow that minor setback be the basis of our future relationships.

Men, you will not( and you shouldn't) want a woman like your MOMMA... Ewww, you want to make love to your momma?? While you mother has been there to set and example( whether good or bad), you are to take bits and pieces of her and find someone to suit you.

Women, because your father wasn't present, don't expect every man you encounter to owe you something. It's not his fault and don't hold him accountable and blame him for it. Allow him to love and appreciate you for the woman you are( and vice verse).

Together, learn to appreciate your mate for who they are. Not for who you "THINK" they should be. There's a bit of unique"NESS" about each of us and we must learn to appreciate it. There will be good days and bad days. Let the good out weigh the bad and let the bad be lessons for the other days to come.

We have the power to have relationships that model President & 1ST Lady O'Bama. I just love them. He has the toughest job in the world and when he goes to bed at night, he has the toughest woman to listen to his hopes and dreams for the future.

Women, love your KING and men love QUEEN. We tend to feel a certain way when our races mix and mingle with others, but if we learn to appreciate them, then you know the rest... We cannot control who we fall in LOVE with, the challenge is once we do find that special one we go the distance to make it work...

Make sure they have the 'IT FACTOR".. I was told that's the defining characteristic!!!


LOVE on your MATE today... Caress their thoughts and help the dreams become a reality~~~

Make today GREAT!!