" Sometimes, I just want to yell... He never does anything right she yells into the phone..He puts everyone before Us.." I sat and listened hard to my friend, and I came to the conclusion, that in my own relationship I will NOT judge him because we all have our flaws..I will LOVE him and that's how WE will become Better.
I'm not perfect. I may joke about it alot but truly honestly, I'm NOT( Hahaha, jokes on me huh?lol).. I can't even begin to count on my two hands the amount of mistakes I make in one day. But one thing I do know for sure is that the love I hold in my heart for others is pure and true.
It's funny, I watch the relationships around me and I wonder what makes them last and what are they built on.
Each person has a number of flaws.. But a flaw is just what it is a:( Noun)
A feature that mars the perfection of something, defect, fault..(Dictionary.com)
My flaws are my hands are wrinkled,I have scars on my body from when I was younger,I have a slight belly,I have selective hearing and sometimes I'm NOT the easiest person to get along with. But, there are people out here who love me with all of my imperfections. And that's the least I can do in return.
Let's take baking for instance. I'm the worst at it, I tell you NO lie. My specialty are cupcakes. They are easy and I've mastered them. Yesterday, I made rice crispy treats at work with the children, to me they were the Most horrific treats I'd EVER seen. But, my daughter and her classmates LOVED them. And although they were children and most of them eat anything, it made me feel good to know that they liked them. I actually smiled to myself( sidenote, I will NOT try and make such a large quantity EVER again.)All it takes is for one person to appreciate something we deem as a flaw to make us feel better and loved. As humans, we long for that feeling of acceptance and appreciation.
When we can look past all of the things that are not perfect about us, it helps us to realize that, If I'm not perfect neither is the next person. So, who am I to pass judgement when we all are falling short? In relationships, its easy to see what the other person is doing wrong, but can we actually stop and notice our wrongs? Our flaws in the relationship?
In order for anything to work, it takes two people with willing hearts to see past them selves and see into the heart and soul of their mate. It takes honesty on both sides and TRUE love. You cannot say you truly love your mate when you do not have faith in them. You cannot say you love your mate when you nit pick about every little thing they do. With time, you will learn that somethings are NOT worth arguing. BUT, you will also know and understand when you need to voice your concerns. And concerns are not finger pointing remarks, they are remarks that will help the two of you to either build a stronger relationship or help you to determine if it's worth fighting for.
I'm patiently awaiting the day were I become 1 with a MAN that LOVES all of me, but until then I'm looking past my Flaws, Loving him the way he is.. And appreciating our LOVE because it makes us both Better!!
Be Inspired,
Be Encouraged!!
Cheneka T. Is.......
- Sincerely, ChenekaT
- Atlanta, Georgia, United States
- I'm Cheneka, simply put!! I'm a Mother, Author, Business Owner and Co-Founder of Women Who Network, LLC. I recently became a published Author: Strategically Being Mom. Book number 2 is currently in the works. A series on things I've learned while being a Single Mom. I was born to help heal others through my words and actions. My greatest Joys are my children and to help others. You can find me on Instagram; womenbldgnetwrk( business) neka_th( personal).
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