The Power of Moving Forward...

The Power of Moving Forward...
Please be advised, this IS NOT my personal story.. This is the story of so many people I've come in contact with..I'm compelled to shre it and if you feel the need to share it with someone please do..We ALL need to move forward. There is so much over each horizon awaiting us)a

It seems that for every step in the right direction I make, there is always something or someone calling me into my past..
I left drugs and I'm NO longer selling or using them,
I'm no longer robbing people sitting behind these walls looking out,
I'm no longer selling my body,
No longer stealing,
No longer lying,
No longer hurting my family members...
But, it seems that no matter what I do, MY Past is trying to over take me. It's trying to resurface and its trying to make me WEAK!!! WHY???

I'm not giving up,
I know there's something better out there for me!
I know I can live right and I know that in time if I continue on this road,
My life is going to change..

The Power to Move forward starts within ME...
The Power to Claim what I want, are words that I have to speak out of my Mouth...
The Power to resist all urges, is within ME!!!

I know what it is to desire something so strong because I Was on Drugs...
But that Power to kick it was always within me...
I know what it felt like to want better BUT nobody wanted to give me a chance,
But the Power was within me...
I know what it is to want to hear the words, I Love You
BUT, I first had to love myself and learn to look past other people's garbage that they were insisting was MINE!!
I know what what it feels like Love unconditionally ang give unconditionally to only be slapped in the face...

BUT, Oh the Power in Moving Forward....
I'm moving forward because there is BETTER out here for me...
I'm moving forward because each test and obstacle is setting me up for GREATNESS...
I'm moving forward because each opportunity becomes better!!
I'm moving Forward because Greater is HE that is in ME than HE who is in the World!!

Once you make it up in your mind to MOVE, all of the doors that we're blocked become opened..All the people who were NOT willing to help become sweeter..All things negative in your life are now looked at as lessons learned!! Position yourself to move, it is Time!

The Path that is for me and the Path that is for you are NOT the Same...
But the Message is Clear...
There is POWER in Moving Forward..Take off and MOVE!!!!

Be Inspired, Be Encouraged!

The Reality Is..you HAVe to Believe and TRUST GOD...

" This is your captain..Buckle up"!!! I jumped up and looked around.. I could've sworn I was laying in bed and sure as heck I was.. I looked around and said that was weird. I attempted to lay back down, then I heard.." Are you going to Trust me, or keep trying to out smart me"?? ...We're only as strong as the defining moments where we realize there is something better over EVERY horizon... It's NOT the matter of meeting people just like US, BUT the ones who help Us realize that at this moment and particular time WE are right where We're supposed to be..

And I will make the dark places light, the ones who despise you, I will remove and the ones for you will understand, be there and never leave..

I was starting to have doubts. i knew I was moved out from under "comfort" to be placed into my season of total dependence on God.. I just didn't know HOW hard it was going to be.. I didn't know ppl were going to walk out of my life as quickly as they did and I surely didn't know God was already lining it up for me to continue growing, moving and touching others..With eyes full of tears, I had made up in my mind, I wanted to go back to what was familiar.. I wanted to have the "comfort" of calling my mom to hang out with me, I wanted to have the comfort of a church home where, it may not have always been peachy, but EVERYONE knew me, I wanted to go back to a job I HATED but was secure it getting paid weekly... BUT God said NO!!! He strategically placed me alone so that I could build a bond with my own daughter to mimic what my mother and I share, He placed me at The dReam Center Church of Atlanta because was time for me to spread,fly and share his word, he allowed me to meet a young sister and share words of encouragement reminding her, "We cannot start a new phase if we have NOT completely finished the previous one"Boy do I know about that..( Love you Ruthie) and lastly He placed me at this job because I had to encounter a young woman and give her the motivation and strength to Embrace Greater( love you Mel).. I had done all I could for the Youth of Boston and now its time to help women and young girls because so many of them are not living up to their fullest potential. Some "babies" that are planted within us are to large to be delivered in a "small" place. We have to go where the delivery can go smooth and where the "baby" will be fully nurtured, loved, not judged because of the circumstances they were produced( did u catch that)???

I started talking to God telling him, "This is hard..I have no one, the ppl I thought were going to be right here are gone... The people I wanted here are NOT as available and easily accessible as I thought they would be.. In those quiet moment where I could hear an ant outside my door, God comforted me with his loving arms and with these words.. "Better and Greater"...

My outlet became my writing. I had always wrote but now it came from a place deeper than before. It was coming from my soul. Through my writings, I've been able to help organizations secure money, I've witnessed to myself first and then others and above all I found a newer way to Exemplify my Passion.. an Author friend of mine once shared with me, that when you write, write from the heart so that your audience can feel it and relate to it. Funny thing, for each person that's touched, they all receive a different meaning for their life.. So amazing..

I've been patiently AWAITING my break. Jobs, ideas, business opportunities and meetings of the minds were preparing me for my OWN Greatness. God removed me from under others so I could use my own eyes and walk Boldly with Authority into my own Destiny. The tears I shed were my tears for my own future..
I write with a JOY and Peace in my heart because out of what I was gong to deem failure and an AWFUL day, God said NOT so!! I've always felt I was last, BUT God is showing me thru obedience and sacrifice the last surely does become the 1st!!

Whatever your passion is, do it from the heart. It will not go un-noticed. Where ever God is leading you go. We cannot give up until we've tried.. I'm reminded of my daughter, she absolutely HATES being punished. She has a room full of everything but will not play with it, BUT during those moments where she has no other choice but to be in there, she'll pick up Sarah and comb her hair, she will turn on her wii and"exercise" because she has NO other CHOICE!!! Do not let you Blessing come from an opportunity that God had to literally break you down to get your attention.
Walk in the authority of knowing that if you TRUST God, he's not going to leave you nor forsake you... He is Not going to leave you in the desert with no water.

Today, I passionately WRITE because its a Gift God has given me.. This gift opened up a PHENOMENAL door today and if I keep listening to God in a matter of time, its going to pay off...

I'm Inspired today because my yesterday wasn't the best,
My yesterday wasn't the Best because the week before my eyes we're Clouded with fear,
My eyes were clouded with fear because I was to lazy to look for MYSELF...
Today, they are opened with a new outlook and a new Vision..
I'm Seeing Greater and therefore I'm walking in it..
I've been emptied of Crazy"Ness"
And now filled with" Anything is possible, just Believe and TRUST God!!!

Be Inspired,
Be Encouraged!

Inspired to CHANGE, We all Can be Better for us!

"Change comes from within. I shed daily of the old me in order to produce a newer and improved "Che"Neka. I'm Not changing because I don't like who I am..I Change in order to grow. Growth comes from the lessons of life. As we pass each lesson, its not about being number 1, its about knowing we went in head first and accomplished what was set before us.. COMPLETION!!"

Some of us change in order to be a better mate, some of us change in order to be a better Lover.. I went through my CHANGE in order to be a better me. I woke up one day and I was extremely MISERABLE. I wasn't happy in my life. And I now realize, I didn't bring on the change, GOD was tired of me NOT living to my fullest capacity. He was tired of me just settling. What happens when things settle? They just fall and land where they may. I had fallen one to many times and it was time for me to stand on my own. It was time for me to leave my clutch( Boston, Ma) and experience life. I had questioned God many times asking him why such and such was happeningthe way it was, and in the Stillness my heart was comforted with, its time to SPREAD my wings. It's time to walk in my element and be all I was born to be!

Was it a hard transition? YES harder than you'll ever know. Was it worth it? YES in more ways than one. Not only did I find who I really am, but this journey has bought me to places and people I could've and would've never met if I stayed close minded!

A change doesn't always mean you're doing something wrong. A change ( to me) is God's way of saying" Come up just a little bit higher... Come up and soar with with, Come up and live the way I want ALL of my children to live".

Why keep settling for pennies, when there are dimes lying all around you? Why settle for that dog that has laid with numerous flies, when I have a Prince( wink), in the waiting? Your story may not be mine and vs verse, BUT we all have a story. We all have events that have transpired that have led us to believe if we think it we can obtain it.

Not only did I want better for me, BUT I'm my daughter's first teacher. And, if I'm not happy, that same funk was going to trinkle down to her. And its funny, when we go thru and suffer as do our children. My daughter woke up each day, but in her little mind she had worries too. My inspiration is HER..She inspires me to chase my dreams, she inspires me to be a better mom! What I produce will always be figments in her mind, so why NOT produce the Best Always? My life is an example to her that Even tohugh we're not a complete family(YET)..mommy loved her enough to leave the familiar and go after change.

In order for me to give and be all I can for her, I had to drop somethings that were NOT good for either of us...And once I made up in my mind that I'm going to do it the right way, even if it kills me, that's when the Peace, Love, Motivation and Strength filled my heart and finally, my wings were ready to spread.

Let your life's past stay where it is, BUT let it be a lesson LEARNED. Take on Every fear and Every obstacle with an I can do it Attitude..

I'm Inspired to Change, as you are too! We can all Be Better but it starts within.

Be Encouraged,
be Inspired!

In the Quiet & Still, LIFE will still move

" I Cannot stand still... Life will pass me by and I will wonder where my LIFE and time has gone...I MUST continue to follow my dreams, grab life by the horns and ride. Some rides and journeys are so meant to go along..In the quiet& still, I will still move along because "THERE" is still waiting for me"

In the Quiet& Still, Life HAS gone on...
The birds are singing, The rivers are flowing and flowers are blooming.

Life HAS gone on and we will continue to live..
Stillness HAS even moved because time has so patiently waited for us to catch up.

Babies have been born, and LIFE waited
Partners have walked out, and LIFE waited
Jobs have changed and YET LIFE has waited.

What is the wait?
Nothing has nor EVER will be perfect or JUST the way we want it.
Each hand is played differently in LIFE,
It's just a matter of HOW and when you play your Cards!

In the Quiet & Still, LIFE will wait no more!!
It will roar at us like a Lion,
The rays of light will shine,
And God's voice will speak LOUD & Clear
"Come to me".... His voice will say" I will Wait No More"...
I've been quiet and Still...
In Each moment I've been there... You stood and I carried you
You fell, I lifted you..
You cried, I dried the TEARS...
You stepped out, I lifted your foot to the next move...

Still"Ness" will be no more for you...
This is your time..
Walk to me, Run to me...Crawl if you MUST...
In the Quiet, In the Still..I await...

Time will be no more because THIS is your time!!
Walk to me, Run to me, Crawl if you MUST...
Get to me, I'm Calling..
Nothing will be perfect and LIFE cannot and will NOT wait anymore..
It goes on as must you..

In the Quiet& Still I've Stood still...
I cannot anymore..I'm calling..It's ME your Destiny..
Are you Ready??

Be Inspired,
Be Encouraged..Life, Take it and LIVE!!!

Hot Mama Club...Is your Membership Valid?

" Because I pushed out an 8 pound 11 ounce little girl with no medication, does NOT make me a Hot Mama. It's my style, elegance,grace, determination and commitment that does"...


Hot Mama, who me??

What makes me a Hot Mama?
It's not my nice hips that helped to carry my child,
Nor my nice round Breast that nursed my child,
It's Not the fact I have no real life of my own and EVERYTHING revolves around her...
It's Not my clothes,
Bags nor Shoes..

It's my Commitment,
It's my Commitment!!!

I'm committed to raising a well rounded young girl,
I'm committed to her well being,
I'm committed to her development,
And I'm committed to her knowing she is loved!

At times,it does take two parents to make a child and sometimes it does take 2 parents to give stability,
BUT,
All it takes is enough love and a warm heart from a Hot Mama to do it so GRACEFULLY!!!

A Hot Mama,
There's No manual for the hott"ness" that is needed to get this job,
Neither are there lessons or lectures to prepare you.
All you really need is a big Heart,
Commitment,
A stern Voice from time to time,
No Fear,
Kind Words & Encouragement!!

A Hot Mama,
You don't have to birth them to LOVE them..
All it takes is LOVE and a Big Heart!!

I'm a Hot Mama, Not by My Choice but the Choice of LIFE!!
Hot Mama, its a thank"LESS" job some days,
But the small hands and sweet I love you's Make it Worth it!!

Be Encouraged to raise Happy Children and they will
Inspire you to give Harder!!

Truth Be Told....

" We cannot make a person feel the same excitement we have when things are looking up for us, We cannot make them care, we cannot make them support us...HOWEVER, we can tell them less and they can watch us shine from the side line"...


Truth Be told,
I'm Strong,
I've been hurt and over came it in the same breath.

Truth Be Told,
I've been under estimated more than once,
I've been laughed at, I've been hurt and over came it in the same breath.

Truth Be Told,
I can love you and be your biggest support.
I've been told I love to hard and care to much..
I've been hurt being me, BUT in the same breath I over came it!

Truth Be Told,
I'm human,
I long for your Support, Encouragement, Touch and Smile...
I long to be treated with the same RESPECT and Equality as I give you.

Truth Be Told,
I'm a Woman,
A Strong Woman!
God Made me the way He did because he knew,
There would be people who would
Hurt Me,
Lie to me,
Talk about Me,
Disrespect Me,
Walk over Me,
Love Me,
Want Me,
Care for Me,
Support Me and Encourage Me!!

Truth Be Told,
I'm Not changing for anyone,
You Either appreciate my Spunk and Determination or Watch from the sideline!

Truth Be Told,
I'm going to keep shining, keep rising to the occasion,
and YOU or NOBODY else will stop me!!...... Truth Be Told!!!

Be Encouraged to Aim High
Be Inspired to LIVE!!!

Looking Past My own Flaws..... To LOVE Better

" Sometimes, I just want to yell... He never does anything right she yells into the phone..He puts everyone before Us.." I sat and listened hard to my friend, and I came to the conclusion, that in my own relationship I will NOT judge him because we all have our flaws..I will LOVE him and that's how WE will become Better.

I'm not perfect. I may joke about it alot but truly honestly, I'm NOT( Hahaha, jokes on me huh?lol).. I can't even begin to count on my two hands the amount of mistakes I make in one day. But one thing I do know for sure is that the love I hold in my heart for others is pure and true.
It's funny, I watch the relationships around me and I wonder what makes them last and what are they built on.

Each person has a number of flaws.. But a flaw is just what it is a:( Noun)
A feature that mars the perfection of something, defect, fault..(Dictionary.com)
My flaws are my hands are wrinkled,I have scars on my body from when I was younger,I have a slight belly,I have selective hearing and sometimes I'm NOT the easiest person to get along with. But, there are people out here who love me with all of my imperfections. And that's the least I can do in return.

Let's take baking for instance. I'm the worst at it, I tell you NO lie. My specialty are cupcakes. They are easy and I've mastered them. Yesterday, I made rice crispy treats at work with the children, to me they were the Most horrific treats I'd EVER seen. But, my daughter and her classmates LOVED them. And although they were children and most of them eat anything, it made me feel good to know that they liked them. I actually smiled to myself( sidenote, I will NOT try and make such a large quantity EVER again.)All it takes is for one person to appreciate something we deem as a flaw to make us feel better and loved. As humans, we long for that feeling of acceptance and appreciation.

When we can look past all of the things that are not perfect about us, it helps us to realize that, If I'm not perfect neither is the next person. So, who am I to pass judgement when we all are falling short? In relationships, its easy to see what the other person is doing wrong, but can we actually stop and notice our wrongs? Our flaws in the relationship?

In order for anything to work, it takes two people with willing hearts to see past them selves and see into the heart and soul of their mate. It takes honesty on both sides and TRUE love. You cannot say you truly love your mate when you do not have faith in them. You cannot say you love your mate when you nit pick about every little thing they do. With time, you will learn that somethings are NOT worth arguing. BUT, you will also know and understand when you need to voice your concerns. And concerns are not finger pointing remarks, they are remarks that will help the two of you to either build a stronger relationship or help you to determine if it's worth fighting for.

I'm patiently awaiting the day were I become 1 with a MAN that LOVES all of me, but until then I'm looking past my Flaws, Loving him the way he is.. And appreciating our LOVE because it makes us both Better!!

Be Inspired,
Be Encouraged!!

Your Flight is NO longer Delayed, Please fasten your Seat Belt!!

And the phone rings.." Girl, where are You have you guys landed"?? With excitement she yells" YES, we just landed, looking for my luggage now, See you Soon"!! With the same excitement we have when we finally get to our destination, that's the same JOY and excitement God has when he Grants us the desires of our heart.. We have walked into our calling and destiny, therefore keeping NO good things from us!!!


Life is full of delays...
Job promotions, marriage, purchasing homes, start up businesses, starting a family, just life in particular. And, I've learned its not because we're NOT worthy or Deserving of these things, its just NOT our time. There's still some bumps we have go smooth over, some clouds we have to cruise thru, a seat belt that needs to be tightened or repaired, before we can get up in the air and sail!

What are you doing to prepare for your flight to take off? Are you dropping dead weight, are you mending bad relationships, are you forgiving and meaning it in your heart? I've learned that in order to Fly, you have to make the proper preparations...

Some flights( dreams) take longer than others to take off. Not because its delayed "indefinitely", But because the atmosphere is preparing for you and your journey!!
We all may not travel the same.. some people are scare to:
Fly, therefore they take a train
Some people are scared of the train, therefore they take the bus,
Some people are scared of the bus, therefore they drive,
And some people can't take long drives so they walk..

Whatever your mode of travel may be, Fasten your seat belt, Your time is Quickly approaching..Get ready to take OFF!!!

Be Inspired
Be Encouraged!

SisterHOOd, a Bond like No other!

" I was given 2 biological sisters in my life. Although I have them, God has placed women in my life who have truly shown me what it is to have that sisterly bond. Today's blog is dedicated to ALL the women I affectionately call my Sissy, Big sis, lil sis and sister girl! Each of you add a puzzle piece to my life and I truly and honestly THANK-YOU"!

I HATE to admit this but I, Cheneka Trene' Hobbs IS NOT perfect and I do NOT know everything( Okay, mom are you happy, I'm finally shedding the weight of imperfection...Smile). I mess up, I say some truly mean things at times, I make irrational decisions from time to time, and sometimes I have the STANKIEST, FUNKIEST moods! But, you know what, that's what makes me human and a Woman for sure! And during those moments I can pick up the phone or send a text to my sister girls, tell them what I'm thinking, said or thought, or even done and INSTANTLY dialogue starts.
The conversations are never anything badgering or I told you so, But words of wisdom, strength, encouragement and LOVE that's needed from time to time.

Growing up, I was the oldest of 6 siblings( 2 sisters and 4 brothers). I ALWAYS found myself in protective mode, especially over the 3 brothers I grew up with. I was( and still am) quick with the tongue or fist straight to a chick who I deemed has hurt or disrespected one of my brothers. I'm still quick, BUT I've learned I cannot always protect them. And that some of their decisions are just plain DUMB( thank God they will NOT see this although I tell them all the time, Love you BFC..family insider)

But, deep down I've always longed for that feeling of having an older sibling to protect me. Slowly, but surely God began to place women in my life who have truly made the difference. And some of them you would think are biological because we've gone through some real battles as Real sisters would do. And in the end we talked it out, yelled and cried- But we truly understood the Pure- true Essence of Sisterhood and got over it and moved on!

This piece is dedicated to All of you- And I don't have to mention your names, because you will feel it in your heart if I'm talking to you!

My Friend, I call you Sister!!
Though Blood is thick, and defines Family,
Love surpasses it and bonds us like no other!
I call you when I'm down I call you when I'm up,
And your response is the same" Awww, Girl I got you"...
My Friend, I Call you Sister!!!

I never understood what it meant to be a little sister, until I became yours,
I get those check-in calls and text messages that let me know I'm being thought of!
It's NOT easy being a little sister BECAUSE at times I'm wrong(LOL),
But your response is always the same, Awww, Girl I got you"...
My Friend, I call you Sister!!!

The statement Real Recognizes Real is very true, BECAUSE with my eyes in You I RECOGNIZE...
Love,
Peace,
Strength,
Character,
Determination,
Encouragement,
Laughter,
Tears,
Joy,
Happiness!
And no matter when I call or text, your response is always the same..
"Awww, girl I got you"..
And knowing that makes ALL the difference in the world!!!

My Friend, I take Pride in Calling you My Sister!

Truth Be Told, I went thru, conquered &Now I feel Better..

"Sometimes we have to go through to get ahead and the test isn't the actual trial...BUT the results and the lives we touch once its ALL over".... I've gone through to help you and TRUTH be told, I feel better!!!


Have you ever had that uncontrollable cry that just wouldn't stop? Just when you thought you could wipe your face for the last time, the flood gates re-open and you are boo hooing again? Or have you ever felt, okay this is the last time I'm going to deal with this situation, I'm wiping my hands and moving on? Been there and done that, funny thing it wasn't completely over!! There were still a few tears that had to be shed and a few more trials you needed to go through before you could fully say..Truth be told, I went thru, Conquered & Now I feel better!!

Some of life's most poignant lessons are the ones we experience alone while we are down and out. During those lessons, we find the strength the keep on striving and keep moving forward. We will most likely NEVER share the exact same experience, BUT the good thing is, you went thru to help me and I went thru to help you...
Truth be told, "WE" went thru, Conquered & Now "WE" feel better!

Have you ever felt that you are at your BREAKING point and about to snap? You keep telling people to watch out, stay out of your space and to respect you and what you're dealing with? Only to keep finding yourself in the same situation, repeating yourself and getting hotter by the minute? and just when you are about to snap, there is a calmness that comes over you and you make it thru without harming someone?
Truth be told, "YOU" went thru & Now "YOU" feel better!

Truth Be Told, we are built to go thru,
We are built to suffer, We are built to be hurt..
Truth Be Told,
Each ordeal will make us Stronger and able to Stand the Test!
Truth Be Told, We are Conquerors and in the End we shall Win!!
Truth be Told, I went thru,
Conquered & Now I Feel Better!!

Be Encouraged
Be Inspired!!

Self"LESS" giving...

" I don't give to expect things in return, I give to see others smile and I give because that is how I'm BleSSed"

When I was younger, I truly never understood what it meant to give from the heart. I would give and expect something, anything in return! I didn't fully understand that giving comes from the heart and sometimes the gift isn't something you can see physically... As time has progressed, I've learned some of the gifts I've received in return are immeasurable.

I've now learned to give unconditionally. I give because it feels right in my soul and it truly is a wonderful feeling to know you've put a smile on someone's face.

I'm also teaching my daughter to give. I have a bad habit of over buying for her. There fore, leaving some outfits being worn only once. I teach her that when we give to others, we then receive blessings in return. She;s becoming a good sport at helping me go through the things she cannot fit or even play with so we can pass them on to someone else.

When it comes to my relationship with God, I give of my time and sharing of his word to non-believers. In the end, we will be held accountable for this. One of his biggest requirements is to share what he has blessed us with with others. I'm constantly told that my words and blogs inspire others, but truth be told I'm always talking to myself first. I cvannot expect my words to touch others without first touching or encouraging myself.

So today, I challenge each of you to give Self"leSS"ly. Give until you cannot give anymore...This may sound funny to some but it TRULY works for me...I'm a serious bag lover...And I have all types of bags, high end to Target..As of lately, I've found myself giving away my older bags that I no longer use or carry as much. And I've noticed that when I do that, I'm blessed over and over time again. I'm not giving in hopes that someone is going to give me something in return, I give just to make someone else happy. and when we can truly understand and give from our hearts, we've conquered the test of Self"LESS" Giving!

Be Encouraged
Be Inspired, GIVE!